Posts Tagged ‘stress’

August 3 Quote of the Day

Friday, September 13th, 2013

We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance.
Harrison Ford

 

Unplanned changes can range from being simply annoying to outright catastrophic. Rarely do we welcome them with open arms. Our lives are comfortable the way they are.  Or, at least, we’ve become used to the way they are and we don’t like to be jostled out of our nice, little routine.  When the jostling is a major change – like losing your job – the stress can be overwhelming.

Keep in mind that any change, no matter how stressful, can be for the better. Look on it as a second chance to move your life in the direction you always wanted to go.  Then get up and move yourself.

June 17 Daily Quote

Saturday, September 22nd, 2012

The moment one gives close attention to any thing, even a blade of grass it becomes a mysterious, awesome,indescribably magnificent world in itself.

Henry Miller

 

One of the neat things about daily life is that there are always mysteries surrounding us. There are always new things to learn or see. Next time stress seems to be overwhelming you, take a break. Walk outside and pick a leaf off a tree. Look at it closely. See it’s shape and compare it to a different tree in your yard. If you have a microscope, use it to help you in your study. For just a little while, step outside the problems you face and just marvel at the mysteries of life.

 

July 22 Daily Quote

Sunday, September 2nd, 2012

Three meals plus bedtime make four sure blessings a day.
Mason Cooley

 

Ever think that your life is so lacking in good that there is nothing to be thankful for? Start thinking of the normal things in your life that are so abnormal in the lives of others. Our mother’s tried to explain that to us when they insisted that the starving in India would gladly eat the food we shunned. We were too busy spending our time trying to figure out how to get this awful stuff to India that we missed the point. If you are getting three meals a day, you are living large in many parts of the world. If you have a home to live in, you have another blessing.  A room with a bed in it at the end of the day is absolute luxury to many. Your life may have some very stressful times and some very difficult problems to overcome but there are many who would trade with you given the chance. While you’re working through the problems of today,  take some time to remember the things for which you are thankful. When you stop to think about it, I’m sure you’ll find quite a few.

 

April 14 Quote of the Day

Saturday, April 14th, 2012

No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
Barbara de Angelis

Circumstances can often cause stress, unhappiness and anxiety. It’s up to you to turn those circumstances around – make the changes necessary – to improve your life and ensure your happiness.

My Canvas of Life is a Little Messy

Sunday, January 15th, 2012

You know that saying “life is like a canvas. Every day is a brush stroke”? Yesterday my brush stroke was a big blob of paint buried under a black blanket headache. Today it’s shades of gray interspersed with lightning flashes of blue in a dark sky of headache. Dancing around the edges of this sky of headache is a little butterfly who occasionally morphs into a gnat buzzing around my headache and then suddenly, without warning, turns into a mosquito that bites me causing red flashes of anger that I try to control with big brown buckets of mud I throw at her. She then slinks off, a little puppy with her tale between her legs and I sit on my recliner wallowing in puke-green feelings of guilt for taking out my pain on the butterfly in my life. I’m sure you get the picture. Some days the colors on my canvas are a little icky. I’m sure they are for you, too.

Everybody has those days. Those are the days when the people with the perky little upbeat sayings annoy the heck out of you. I’m pretty sure some of the posts I’ve written fall in that category for some of you readers. If so, that’s okay. Because everyone has days when every electrical appliance in the house goes on the blink (shortly after the warranty has run out). Or they have days when they want to stuff their boss headfirst in a garbage can and toss half their customers on top of him. Families tend to get the brunt of our emotions when those days come. While it’s not necessarily okay, it is understandable. Every now and then, we all should be allowed a day of wallowing in self-pity. It’s probably not a good idea to make a habit of it. The ones you love might run out of tolerance. It is a good idea at the end of those days to thank the husband for doing the dishes and standing in the gap for childcare. And you should also remember to remind the little one as you send her off to bed that you love her very much. Then you can look forward to the next day when you can paint the sun peaking out from behind the clouds and, when you do, you won’t feel quite so annoyed by the happy little flowers drying in the sun on your canvas.

Depression Can’t Win! We Won’t Let it!

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

Depression is taking our world by storm and no wonder! Hurricanes are causing flooding destroying thousands of homes and killing or harming numerous people. Excessive heat has been blamed for many deaths. Crop failures are following. Earthquakes tumble homes. People in third world countries are starving. The economy worldwide is failing so that even those in developed countries are suffering. Many fear the loss of their jobs, homes and economic well-being. Stress is rampant. Too much stress equals depression. Depression causes anger which causes arguments with loved ones which causes family failures, divorces and even more stress. It’s a downward spiral that seems never ending.

Can it be stopped? I think so. It’s going to take a change in habits on our part. What’s the habit? The one that causes us to focus on the crisis and forget all else. Have you ever watched a child playing a video game? They keep struggling to get higher and higher in the levels of the game. The struggle frustrates them. The top level seems more and more elusive. Finally, they slam the controls on the ground and scream ‘I’m never going to get it’. At which point, we – the parents – decide it’s time to change activities. We send them out to play basketball or ride their bikes or just hang out with friends for a little bit. When they come inside again, they are relaxed and ready to try again. Sometimes they even find the game has become a little easier for that time away.

As adults we focus on the crisis in our lives, worrying more and more as we think of what can happen if we lose our job or the economy gets worse and our IRA’s fall even more. Almost everyone does this. Some studies have shown that more than 90% of our approximately 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts each day are negative and most are the same as the previous day. We focus on the bills, the problems at work, the car that needs repaired, the kids’ behavior until everything reaches epic proportions and we figuratively throw ourselves on the floor and say ‘I’m never going to make it!’ It’s time, Mom and Dad, to go outside and play. You don’t need an extended vacation. You don’t need to spend a lot of money. Go for a walk. Enjoy the beauty of the day. Isn’t the weather nice this time of year? Take the kids to the beach and make sand castles. Go in your back yard and play with the puppy. Laugh when he falls over his tail and then runs to you and licks your face. See the good in life. When life really starts getting you down, practice thinking about the things the bring you up. It’s a concept that’s been around since Bible times when the writer of Philippians said “whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things.”

When we’ve stopped to do these things, we can come back to the problems of life with a little better attitude. We might even find things are a little easier once we’ve taken some time away. After all, it’s a little hard for depression to keep a hold on us with a puppy licking our face.

In a Hurry?

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

Today I was driving peacefully down the road, doing the speed limit when another car raced paced me, cut in front and swiftly moved into the turn lane. By doing this, the other driver probably gained ¼ of a second, maybe even ½. I’m not really sure the gaining of this much time is really worth the risk. We’re a people who have been raised on television bombs exploding, split second decisions, microwave meals, and classes designed to teach a foreign language in 12 weeks or less. In all this speed, I think we may be missing some important moments in life. Stop and smell the flowers. It’s still a good philosophy to live by. In the case of that other driver, it’s a philosophy that might help him simply live.

Late for Christmas!

Sunday, July 31st, 2011

It’s been a hectic holiday season. Four days to go and no one is ready yet. The presents aren’t wrapped. The house needs cleaned. Laundry isn’t done. Groceries haven’t been purchased. Cooking specialty dishes is behind schedule. Peace on earth has yet to arrive. I’m thinking of Mary riding that donkey on the way to Jerusalem. She’s in labor. They haven’t gotten to Bethlehem yet. The baby is coming. They don’t know where they will be staying. Who is the midwife to be? They haven’t gotten the crib ready. Peace on earth had yet to begin. Yet somehow everything becomes ready. The crib is a manger, the room is a stable. The swaddling clothes had been brought along. In lieu of family and friends, shepherds and wise men have come to call. And the angel is singing ‘Peace on earth’. So in this Christmas season, when all is not ready, take a moment to relax. Christmas day will come whether you worry or not. Struggling to make everything perfect will only bring a pall to the season. The presents will somehow end up under the tree. The banana bread might be fun to make in the lull between Christmas and New Year’s. The clothes you are wearing may not be the ones you planned to wear to your family get-together but who will care? Your house may not be as clean as you would like but come Christmas morning, the kids should hide most of the everyday mess under the wrapping paper. Sit in your favorite chair, have a cup of coffee. Gaze at the beautifully decorated tree with the one string in the middle burned out. And laugh! Christmas season is here. The family you love (most of the time) is also here. There is a roof over your head and the kids have actual beds. See what is good. Then sing with the angels a little bit. It may not be ‘Joy to the World’. It may be ‘Grandma got run over by a Reindeer.’ But the sentiment is the same. It’s the season to laugh – not stress.,

New Baby

Monday, July 18th, 2011

Q: Thank you so much. This was really helpful. I’m about to be a first time mom do you have any more advice?

A: Congratulations! I think the most important advice I can give you as a first time mom is “relax!” You are going to be working hard at being the perfect mom for this perfect little bundle of joy. And your perfect bundle of joy will occasionally cry anyway. He or she will sometimes get diaper rash, ear infections, etc. Other people will cough around him. The dog will lick his face. All kinds of things will be less than perfect and your little one will live through it anyway. So relax! There are two advantages to spending time relaxing. 1: You will be less stressed out. 2: You will have more time to enjoy the baby while it is still little. Did you know your infant will double his birth weight by six months? Little doesn’t last long. Enjoy it while you can. Part of your relaxing means giving yourself permission to sleep during the day when the baby is napping. It may not seem like you are up that much during the night. After all, feeding the baby only takes 20 minutes or so. Total, you might be up for an hour so why do you need all that extra sleep during the day? Because interrupted sleep is not as restful as uninterrupted sleep – that’s why! If a clean house is a high priority for you, I would suggest you pick one room to keep clean. Preferably the room you rock the baby in. That way, you can relax, enjoy your little one and still be in a clean room. There will be times when the rest of the house is a shambles but at least you’ll have one spot to enjoy. If you have to go back to work right away, this will be even more important. You will be exhausted at night. You will have missed your little one all day and your little one will have missed you. Take some time for the two of you to retreat to your favorite – and only – clean room in the house for some quality time. Time will pass and the little one will become more independent. That will be the time you can start catching up on all those things that have gotten behind. Enjoy your new baby. And, again, congratulations!

February 22 Quote of the Day

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2000

Art is the only way to run away without leaving home.
Twyla Tharp

To be lost in your art is a wonderful refreshing way to release some of the tension brought by your daily life. But I would have to disagree with the idea that it is the only way. People come in all shapes and sizes and so they differ in the ways they find to ‘run away’. For some getting lost in music can be that release. For others there is writing, prayer, a good book, meditation…… It is good, though, that we can all find our own way to leave the daily grind for just a little while.