Posts Tagged ‘self–help’

August 4 Quote of the Day

Thursday, September 19th, 2013

Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you.

Clement Stone

 

It is interesting to note that the man who made this statement grew up in poverty. His father died when he was young leaving him to be raised by a single mom. He was born into poverty but he didn’t choose to stay there.  None of us have to choose to stay in an environment that is toxic. All of us here in America are free to decide to change our environment. It might not be easy. It couldn’t have been easy for a six-year-old W. Clement Stone to sell newspapers on street corners but he did it. It takes effort and determination to remove ourselves from negative situations. Like a mountain climber trying to reach the peak, we must focus on the goal. We have to see past the muscle pain, the exhaustion, the cold and discomfort to reach the top.

The environment in which we find ourselves doesn’t have to be the environment in which we choose to live. If the environment you currently live in isn’t the one you want for yourself, visualize the environment you want.  Then go get it!

 

June 25 Daily Quote

Friday, September 28th, 2012

We are like chameleons, we take our hue and the color of our moral character, from those who are around us.
John Locke

 

Look carefully at those you call your closest friends. For good or bad, you will eventually become like them. It’s like sitting in the sun. The longer you hang out on the beach, the darker your skin becomes. If you stay long enough, it can become painful. Do you have your own personal values? Be sure your friends share those values. If they don’t, your values will become eroded until they look just like those of your friends.

We are indeed chameleons.

 

June 22 Daily Quote

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.
Dale Carnegie

 

Good advice. Better advice would be to stop worrying about what others think altogether.  Start looking at your dreams and working toward them. If you will admire what you have done, it doesn’t matter what others think. Those who love you will be happy to see you satisfied.

 

Those who don’t love you, don’t count.

June 21 Daily Quote

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

I am in that temper that if I were under water I would scarcely kick to come to the top.
John Keats

 

You are not alone if you feel that living requires too much effort. John Keats, one of the great poets, felt that way. Nearly everyone feels that way at some point.  Exhaustion and stress can push anyone to that point on occasion. What is important is to realize that everyone eventually comes back into the light and are happy that they stayed just that extra little while. If you’re feeling that way now, stay a little longer with us.

Kick a little harder to reach the top.

 

July 25 Daily Quote

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Mass transportation is doomed to failure in North America because a person’s car is the only place where he can be alone and think.
Marshall McLuhan

 

As communication devices become more and more popular,  finding a place where we can be alone and think is becoming increasingly difficult.  Finding that place is essential.

Taking the time to sort out what we think and how we feel about people and events in our lives keeps us grounded and sane. As a busy mother, I discovered this long ago. Crying babies, requirements of other children, home making needs and career demands taught me to value that quiet after bedtime when the television was off, the phone calls silent for the evening.  My mind could drift and sort leaving me free to begin tomorrow with a sense of calm and a greater appreciation of my life.  Now I find that time by going early to appointments and sitting in the car – just listening to the silence.

Find a spot in your life to be alone each day if only for a few minutes.  Trust me.  It will do wonders for you sanity.

 

July 18 Quote of the Day

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

If you are carrying strong feelings about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live in the present.
Les Brown

 

Things that have happened in our past often haunt us. We think the hurt is just about healed and then something comes up that pushes it to the front of our minds and lives. Next time that happens to you – stop the cycle.  Take a cold, hard look at the event that persists in resurfacing.

Ask yourself if you can change anything about that event now. Ask yourself if you can heal any hurts that others have been feeling as a result of that event. Ask yourself if you need to forgive someone for what has happened. Think carefully about your answers. If there is nothing that can be done to change that event, accept that it happened. If there is nothing that you can do to help others heal from this event, forgive yourself for any part you played in it.

If you still hold a grudge, forgive the person involved. Once you’ve done all these things, allow yourself to put that book on the shelf as being finished. You may have to do this many times before you are completely healed but it is worth the effort. Don’t let that event dictate who you are now. Accept your feelings as justified.  Accept that the past cannot be changed.

July 19 Quote of the Day

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

See how many are better off than you are, but consider how many are worse.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It never hurts to look at those who are better off than you are. It gives you a list of goals to attain. Just don’t become envious of them. It just brings you discouragement to think that you don’t have all that you want. When you feel that envy is winning the battle, stop and take a look at those less fortunate than you. You may not know them personally but they exist. The homeless, the aged, the ill, those without family, those who have been abused. The list goes on and on. You are, in fact, in a very good place.  Take a moment or two to be thankful.

 

May 20 Quote of the Day

Monday, September 24th, 2012

‘Evil men have no songs.’ How is it that the Russians have songs?
Friedrich Nietzsche

 

I’m not going to agree that Russians are evil but I am going to agree that everyone has a song. The question is – What kind of a song do you have? Is your song one that lifts up your neighbor and brings joy to you and yours? Is your song one that cries out for help? Is your song the song of love? Is your song angry? It’s important to know what your song might be. If you’re singing a song that doesn’t suit you, it’s time to make some changes in your life. If you’re singing a song that cries for help, reach out and receive it.  There are those that would love to help.  If you’re singing an angry song, be sure you know why you’re angry.  Angry is sometimes a bi-product of hurt or sorrow.  Reach out to those who would ease the hurt.  Reach out to those who understand your sorrow.  Those other songs of joy, happiness, love?  Keep singing them loud and long!  Everybody needs to hear those.

July 26 Daily Quote

Saturday, September 22nd, 2012

If you hear a voice within you say ‘you can’t paint,’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.
Vincent Van Gogh

 

Don’t let self-doubt stop you from becoming the person you want to be. Remember that talent is 90% practice. Don’t think you can sing?  Sing anyway.  Don’t think you’re a craft person?  Start doing a few things that look like fun.  It’s amazing the person you can become when you just practice.

May 14 Quote of the Day

Monday, September 17th, 2012

Whenever we’re afraid, it’s because we don’t know enough. If we understood enough, we would never be afraid.
Earl Nightingale

 

Remember when you were little how afraid you were to turn off the light because you didn’t know what would be in the dark? Now that you’re older, you realize that the dark has nothing in it that wasn’t there when the light was on. Most of the fears we face as adults – while they seem legitimate and terrifying – are a lot like that darkened room

If we just understood the nature of things a little better, we would know there was nothing to fear.  If you’re facing a challenge that is terrifying you right now, go ahead and turn off the light.