Posts Tagged ‘rules’


Saturday, September 20th, 2014

Our 8-year-old granddaughter has reached the age where board games and other type of two player games are just her cup of tea.

One of the favorite games she likes to play is ‘hangman’. Her favorite person she likes to play it with is Grandpa. I find it interesting that two people who don’t know how to spell enjoy playing this game together. So I listened for a while and learned something. Turns out being a good speller isn’t really a requirement of ‘hangman’. You just need to agree on the rules.  For them, words can be spelled phonetically (or fun-ed-dick-lee) if you prefer. As long as the two of you can ultimately fill in the blanks, everything is good.

I guess it’s a lot like driving down the road.

If you live in the United States, don’t drive on the same side of the road as you would in England.  As long as you and the rest of the drivers agree on the rules of the road, you have a fair chance of getting to your destination.

If you stop to think about it, your success in any endeavor you undertake with one or more people, is almost always assured if you can just agree on the rules. Some of the most unlikely couples, make a success of their marriages. Why? Because the two of them agreed on the important things of life; their finances, their living situations, their plans for the future and their plans for their careers and family. Why do some families have so little conflict while others struggle to make it through a day without an argument? Because the rules are agreed on and obeyed by all. Conflict comes when rules get broken.  And when you talk about the people you love, emotional hurt from the broken rules is so much more painful than it would be in the general public.

Are you and your spouse going through some difficult times? Maybe this would be a good time to sit down and establish some guidelines to live by.  Are the kids totally out of control? Might be good to sit them down and explain that there are rules of conduct that they are expected to observe.

All relationships are complicated.  Set up some rules. Peace will reign a lot more often if you can make and observe them.

July 12 Daily Verse

Wednesday, September 12th, 2012

You have let go of the commands of God and are holding on to human traditions.”

Mark 7:8


Father, keep us holding to Your commands and not to the traditions and rules set down by man. Many times we forget to look at Your word before following others down a destructive path.

Should People Attend Church?

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

Perfection is, unfortunately, not a state I have managed to attain yet. I just keep learning new things and realizing when I was wrong in others. Mostly I just keep realizing that I am going to have to learn to compromise more. For example, years ago, I chose to walk away from attending church services. I had not chosen to walk away from my belief in Christ. But I felt that churches, pastors, and people who congregated together in the church building made fantastic claims that they based on the Bible but couldn’t be verified in real life. I felt that churches often made sweeping judgments against those whose lifestyles didn’t conform 100% with their requirements. There were rules that had to be followed to be a ‘true’ christian. Deviating from those rules made you less than worthy. So I walked. I continued to want to know what the truth was so I kept studying various teachings including those in the Bible to see if I could separate the truth from the claims of the churches and the regulations laid down by them. In my studies, I recently came across this passage in the Bible that told of Jesus on the Sabbath in the synagogue. A sick woman was there and He healed her. This, of course, annoyed the leaders. Jesus was breaking a rule and working on the Sabbath. The leader didn’t complain to Jesus about this. I don’t know if he was in awe of Jesus or if he had just given up trying to get Jesus to conform to the rules. This leader went to the woman and scolded her for being healed on the Sabbath. So Jesus turned around and scolded him. Called him a hypocrite. Said he would have fed his donkey on the Sabbath, wasn’t this woman more important? There were several little things that occurred to me when I read this. First, Jesus wasn’t always all that fond of the teaching of the elders. Second, rules weren’t His primary consideration – people were. And thirdly, he was in the synagogue. In spite of the fact that He didn’t always follow the rules, and He didn’t always like the elders, and He didn’t always believe they were teaching the actual truths God wanted the people to hear, where would you see Him on the Sabbath? He would be in the synagogue. He didn’t have to agree with them. He just kept doing what He thought was right. If He saw them hurting others, He spoke up. Obviously He didn’t make Himself real popular with the elders. Anyway, it came to me there were some things I needed to learn from this. One, I should just keep on doing what I think is right. Two, if I see someone being hurt by the rules imposed by the church, I should speak up. And, three, I need to rethink my stand on church attendance. So – I keep learning. I hope you do too.