Posts Tagged ‘personal growth’

June 22 Daily Quote

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.
Dale Carnegie

 

Good advice. Better advice would be to stop worrying about what others think altogether.  Start looking at your dreams and working toward them. If you will admire what you have done, it doesn’t matter what others think. Those who love you will be happy to see you satisfied.

 

Those who don’t love you, don’t count.

July 19 Quote of the Day

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

See how many are better off than you are, but consider how many are worse.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It never hurts to look at those who are better off than you are. It gives you a list of goals to attain. Just don’t become envious of them. It just brings you discouragement to think that you don’t have all that you want. When you feel that envy is winning the battle, stop and take a look at those less fortunate than you. You may not know them personally but they exist. The homeless, the aged, the ill, those without family, those who have been abused. The list goes on and on. You are, in fact, in a very good place.  Take a moment or two to be thankful.

 

June 18 Daily Quote

Tuesday, September 25th, 2012

Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints.  It’s something you weren’t born with and must take responsibility for forming.
Jim Rohn

 

Who would you like to be? Discounting finances and popularity, what type of person you would like to become?   Take a look at the people in your life that you really admire.  Pick a character trait they have that you would like to have.

Spend each day this month concentrating on building that trait into your character.

It only takes 30 days to build a habit. Wouldn’t it be great if you could build a character that others could admire just by taking the time each day for 30 days to work on becoming the man or woman you would like to be? Give it a try.

May 14 Quote of the Day

Monday, September 17th, 2012

Whenever we’re afraid, it’s because we don’t know enough. If we understood enough, we would never be afraid.
Earl Nightingale

 

Remember when you were little how afraid you were to turn off the light because you didn’t know what would be in the dark? Now that you’re older, you realize that the dark has nothing in it that wasn’t there when the light was on. Most of the fears we face as adults – while they seem legitimate and terrifying – are a lot like that darkened room

If we just understood the nature of things a little better, we would know there was nothing to fear.  If you’re facing a challenge that is terrifying you right now, go ahead and turn off the light.

 

May 8 Daily Verse

Sunday, September 9th, 2012

1 John 2:11

But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.

 

Father, teach us how to forgive. Those we love have the power to hurt us more than those we have no relationship with. Father, the hurt can go deep some times. We are Your children and we want to forgive as You have done but we’re not very good at it. When we are unable to forgive on our own, lift the anger and bitterness from us. Flood us with Your love so the hatred can’t live in us. And, Lord, help us speak forgiveness even when we don’t feel it.

 

 

Getting Out of Trouble is Harder than Staying Out

Wednesday, April 11th, 2012

Our teenagers are trying to learn something that we, as adults, have yet to master. That is the ability to deal with peer pressure. As adults, we know that some people are likable but not desirable. We know how to appreciate their finer points without making them our best friend.     We have a nice little treasure chest of excuses that we pull out when we need to avoid a potentially sticky situation. Sometimes, we can’t really pinpoint what it is about a person or situation that makes us uncomfortable but we’ve learned to trust our instincts. We’ve learned that getting ourselves out of trouble is a lot harder than just staying out to begin with.

If you have teenagers, can I suggest that giving them a list of ‘red flags’ to watch out for can help them combat peer pressure? We parents have a tendency to concede defeat with our teenagers when it comes to drinking, smoking, drug use, inappropriate language and sexual experimentation. We decide they’re all going to do it so why fight. The answer to that question is obvious. These are our children. They are worth more than anything else we have in our lives so taking a stand for them and with them is worth every negative they can throw at us when we do. Let your children know the things you see as possible problems. Tongue rings, nose rings, tattoos, suggestive clothing, the lovely (not) aroma of cigarette smoke, cocky attitudes, disrespect toward authority figures – all of these things can be seen as ‘red flags’. Let your child know that others who display these banners of rebellion are not people you will tolerate in their lives. Once they walk out that door, you can’t be certain they will follow your directions but you will, at least, have given them tools to help them choose friends wisely.

Then, take that one additional step of showing them that they can politely smile at anyone. They can treat anyone with courtesy. They just don’t have to hang out with them. Help them start their own, personal treasure chest of excuses. Give them the first excuse they can use. The one that says ‘my parents don’t allow me to __________ (fill in the blank).’ If their friends (or should we say acquaintances) taunt them about the desire to obey, teach them to point out that the parents are the ones with the cash and the car keys and we don’t share with our children who don’t obey. Teach your children that there are consequences to giving in to peer pressure. The consequences from parents who love them is significantly less painful and of shorter duration than the consequences life can hand them.

Our teenagers are not always as loving to us as we would like them to be but they’re still OUR teenagers and we still love them. We also still hurt for them when they hurt. To help them avoid hurt, teach them to recognize people and situations that are problematic. Make sure they have the tools to avoid those things. They might not decide to use them but, then again, they might!

A Handicapped Society

Sunday, March 25th, 2012

Have you ever felt worthless? You know, that feeling you get when nothing you do seems to be special. It sometimes feels like everything you do could easily be done by someone else – so what’s the point? Been there. Done that. Everyone has. So, for just a minute, I want to look at something else.

In the human body, there are red blood cells and white blood cells, there are muscles, bones, lungs, heart, brain, ligaments – all kind of things. Anyone of those things, if they could talk, could get uppity with the rest of them. The heart could say, ‘without me, you’re dead’. The brain could say the same as could the blood cells, the lungs, the muscles - everything. In reality, none of them alone could make the body function. The brain needs the heart to send blood, the heart needs the lungs to re-oxygenate the blood, the lungs need the blood to filter out the bad and return the good, the blood is useless without the work done by the lungs and the heart. The muscles need the building blocks spread by the blood. Everything in your body is necessary. Now – granted – we could get along without some things. Many people live without limbs, eyes, without fully functioning brains, with hearts that aren’t up to snuff, etc. Those are the people we call ‘handicapped.’ Without a body that functions fully together, we are handicapped.

It works that way in life, too. Your family, your place of employment, just society in general needs each and every person to function well in the spot you are in. You may not get the recognition of the President of the United States or the CEO of your company but without you, the President doesn’t have a constituency and the CEO doesn’t have a company. Every person alive today is necessary for the smooth functioning of society as a whole. Without you, we become handicapped. Flipping burgers at McDonald’s maybe doesn’t seem like much but the people who come to you to be fed see you as necessary for their comfort. Vacuuming the office floors after everyone has left can feel like drudgery but the job you do is vital for the health of the workers who will come the next morning. Yes, some people have more glamorous jobs or they live so much more exciting lives than you do. It doesn’t make you – and what you do – less important.

Remember the old saying “bloom where you’re planted”? Well, let me suggest you go one step farther. Let me encourage you to do whatever you do the best you can do. Be a pro at what you do and be proud of what you do because without you, those around you are handicapped.

March 12 Daily Quote

Monday, March 12th, 2012

Believe you can and you’re halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt

First grade = reading. It’s one of the most important things you will learn when you begin your academic career. It’s exciting when you’re six-years-old because you really want to know how! There are some really big words out there. When you first encounter them, you think ‘I can’t read that! It’s too big!” Then you’re teacher reminds you that you have been taught all the phonics necessary to sound out that new word. You can do it! You just have to take apart the word, little by little, until you have made the sounds equal a word. It’s the same way with adult problems. Understand and believe that you have the skills to solve the problems that come your way. Believe in yourself!

Maybe Not so Crazy

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

My husband is a movie buff. He’ll watch nearly every movie that comes down the pike. Redbox is his favorite place to visit. Any movie he finds that he likes, he’ll add to his collection. If he doesn’t like the move, he insists on watching it twice just to be sure it doesn’t have some redeeming quality. If I don’t like it the first time, I’ll just move on! I see no reason to give a movie a second chance. I have to admit that it is a failing on my part to have that attitude with more than just movies. I dismiss things, new experiences and even some people with just a cursory glance. If it doesn’t grab my interest, I just keep moving.

There is a good possibility that I am missing out on fun times and interesting people by insisting that you catch my interest with the first impression. Sometimes I’ll let things into my life for a little bit and then decide they’re kind of a waste. Another thing hits the trash. Remember that “God’s Must Be Crazy” movie? If you haven’t seen it, you should. It’s a great little movie. This movie is set in Africa where a tribe live in complete isolation from the civilized world. They believe that everything is sent by the gods for them and that the gods will only send them good things. So, when a small airplane flies overhead and the pilot throws out a coke bottle, the natives think it is a gift from the gods. They begin to study this bottle and soon discover it is useful in numerous ways. As a result, everyone wants it at once. This is the first time that the village has only one of something. They have to share. They don’t know how. Instead of taking the opportunity to learn the new skill of sharing, they decide that the gods have made a mistake and sent them an evil thing and that they must return it.

There are times when it’s obvious that some things just deserve to be discarded at first glance. But I think – just maybe – it might be worthwhile to give a lot of things a second chance. It could be that, like the African tribe, I am missing the positive side of the coke bottle. Maybe something or someone has come into my life to help me grow a little in some way. Maybe there are people or things in your life that are there to help you grow as well. Before we discard them as useless, let’s take the time to give them a second look. We just may find that they were worth the time.