Posts Tagged ‘perserverance’

Someday Mermaids Might be Real

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

Our little redhead has decided to become a mermaid.  Why this mermaid business has such an appeal, I don’t know but it is serious business for her.  She has watched every mermaid show she can find on the internet (we don’t subscribe to cable so the internet is her only option).

  • She has checked YouTube for others with a similar interest and has learned all she can. A few weeks ago, she found someone who had a formula to make you become a mermaid. She tried it but it didn’t work.

She revisited the site a few days ago but I forbid her to try the formula again.  The kitchen just becomes too much of a mess. Besides, I’m not altogether certain she isn’t going to poison herself in her zeal to find just the right formula.

I’ve tried telling her that mermaids aren’t real.  She doesn’t believe me.  Of course, she also doesn’t believe me when I tell her vampires aren’t real. Recently, due to a serious lack of garlic in the house, she opted to cover her bedroom floor near her window with baking powder.  Her reasoning was that baking powder would work in a pinch as a substitute for garlic. That may be why the mermaid potion isn’t working. We might be missing some of the key ingredients and the substitute she is using is less than useful.

Not being a real mermaid hasn’t stopped her from practicing to become one. She has a mermaid costume from Halloween which wasn’t quite what she wanted so she talked grandpa into making her a mermaid fin for her feet. She stuffs both of her legs into one pant leg, puts on her swimming suit top and shoves her feet into the fin.   She can actually move around the house like this!

Psychologists tell us that play is the way children learn. That being the case, I am happy to see some of the things she is learning in spite of the baking soda and the kitchen messes. She is learning to make and pursue her goals. She hasn’t given up in spite of setbacks. She has researched her subject to learn all she can. She has tried experiments and will doubtless try again when I’m not looking. She has the formula written down and I’m sure she will put in some time talking grandpa into taking her to the store to buy the right ingredients. If that doesn’t work, I’m sure she’ll be tweaking that formula with her own little touches. She is learning persistence in the face of failure.

She is practicing her moves for that coming moment when she finally gets it right.

If she can hold onto all that enthusiasm and determination, if she can remember the steps for success she is learning  now, I’m sure we will someday see her achieve whatever it is she sets out to do. I may never have the spices I need when it comes time to cook and grandpa may never stop yelling each time he steps in the kitchen and discovers her latest attempts at perfecting her formula but I am happy to report that our little redhead will someday be top dog at whatever she chooses to do.

May 18 Daily Verse

Sunday, September 23rd, 2012

1 John 2:6

He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.


Lord, this task is impossible for us. We are so fallible. We love You but we haven’t yet reached perfection.

We want to walk as You walked. We want to love as you loved. Help us, Lord.  May we show Your love and forgiveness to all we meet today. Help us each day to consciously focus on practicing our walk.  Keep us from quitting when we fail. We tell our children to practice what they are learning until they get it right. Remind us that we are Your children and we need to practice until we get it right.

June 8 Quote of the Day

Saturday, September 8th, 2012

Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop good character.


So you screwed up again today. You weren’t the kindest, most loving person on the block. You lost your temper. You didn’t complete all the tasks assigned you. You just didn’t live up to your expectations for yourself. ‘Good character is not formed in a week or a month.’ Keep working at it. Everyone misses the mark on occasion. Some of us miss the mark every day (maybe even twice a day). Don’t get discouraged. You can and will be who you want to be. It just takes time and effort.


April 28 Quote of the Day

Friday, April 27th, 2012

Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every day is a challenge but we don’t always succeed at the challenges handed us. What makes us exceptional employees, parents, friends or neighbors is our ability to acknowledge our lack of success and then get up and try again.

April 21 Daily Verse

Tuesday, April 24th, 2012

1 Peter 1:15

but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,

Father, being holy in our conduct as You are holy is not humanly possible. It can only be possible through Your grace and with Your assistance. When we fail, forgive us. Give us humility to ask forgiveness of those we hurt along the way. Give us the desire to get up and try again each time we fail. Help us, Father. We can’t do this without You.

April 24 Quote of the Day

Tuesday, April 24th, 2012

It’s easy to have faith in yourself and have discipline when you’re a winner, when you’re number one. What you got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not a winner.
Vince Lombardi

No one can win every game nor can you always succeed at everything every time you do it. But if you have faith in yourself and the discipline to keep working when the going gets tough, your failures will be few and your successes many.

April 8 Quote of the Day

Saturday, April 7th, 2012

If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.
John Wooden

Don’t worry about the fact that you make mistakes. Making mistakes is part of the human condition. Worry about whether you are repeating mistakes. Learn from your past. Move on. And get it right next time.

March 15 Quote of the Dy

Thursday, March 15th, 2012

I believe that if one always looked at the skies, one would end up with wings.
Gustave Flaubert

Maybe just looking at the sky won’t give us wings but working toward our goals, struggling over each obstacle, following each path, believing that the goal is attainable will certainly bring us close. It may even bring us all the way there.

Graduating from College Doesn’t Guarantee Success

Tuesday, January 24th, 2012

Q: What is the best way for a recent creative writing grad to get an agent?

A: I am hardly the most qualified person to answer this question. There are literally hundreds of published authors out there who will give you significantly better advice. I strongly recommend that you spend some time researching this information on the internet and checking out some books from your local library. As a creative writing grad, you may have encountered agents in some of your classes who could give you pointers as well.

My advice to you would be to spend a lot of time writing. Before you can actually get an agent to represent you, you must prove that you can and will discipline yourself to write consistently. One way to do this is to write articles for magazines (or blogs). Send them out regularly. Plan on being rejected. Keep at it until you begin to have a portfolio of published articles. Once you have accomplished this, an agent will be more likely to want to work with you since he/she will be certain that you have the self-discipline to continue until you have completed a project. There aren’t very many writers who are overnight successes. Writing, like any other career, takes perseverance to succeed. Being a college graduate gives you a step-up from the crowd. Unfortunately, it won’t have agents pounding at your door. The student who graduates as a business major won’t become CEO of a company the moment he leaves college. He has to work his way to that position. You will have to work your way up also. Good luck!

Let’s Keep on Swimming!

Thursday, January 19th, 2012

Take a look at the adults in this world.  Does it seem as if we have become a generation of quitters?  Granted, most of us don’t go to the extremes that have been in the news lately. There was the woman who turned in a fake death certificate to get a longer vacation and the notorious 72 day Hollywood marriage but other signs indicate that we are a nation of adults who quit with little or no provocation. I’m not saying there is never a time that we shouldn’t quit. I’m just saying that we quit too easily.

Our jobs aren’t ‘fulfilling’ enough so we quit while being very careful not to use the actual word ‘quit’. We use phrases like “upwardly mobile” or “making a lateral career move“. We just move from one job to the next, trading in one less than desirable job for another never being quite content in any of them. The same can be said for our marriages. The man we married hasn’t turned out to be the night in shining armor. On the man’s part, the woman he married isn’t the accomplished and perfect model he hoped for. So we quit. Trade that spouse in for another without ever acknowledging that there will never be a perfect person sitting across the breakfast table from us because there are no perfect people. Even parenting isn’t immune from this “I quit” attitude. The numbers of absentee parents attest to this fact.

I’m not saying I have the answer for all these issues because I don’t. I do know that there are a number of highly successful people who have had something to say about how they view this subject. Helen Keller, both deaf and blind, insisted that ‘we can do anything we want if we stick to it long enough‘. Clearly, quitting wasn’t an option for her. Continuing to try in the face of obvious handicaps only taught her that she could succeed if she just kept at it. Henry Ford didn’t believe that you should quit even if you had, at first, failed. He said “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again. This time more intelligently.” Thomas Edison proved to be the king of stick-to-it-tiveness when making the light bulb. His argument was not that he had failed but that he had ‘found 10,000 ways that won’t work’. He also made a very profound statement when he said “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

I’m thinking that it’s time we started paying attention to the successful people who have come before us and start persevering when faced with obstacles. Quitting should be placed way down low on our list of options. When our marriages are hitting snags, when our children are causing us grief, when our financial issues seem to be overwhelming, when any task we’ve set ourselves seems impossible, we need to listen to those who encourage us to try harder. We need to do as Dorie, the lovable, blue fish from ‘Finding Nemo’ does. Just keep on swimming!