Posts Tagged ‘Parenting/Teen’

Verse of the Day – July 28

Saturday, September 3rd, 2016

Isaiah 1:2 (NET)

Listen, O heavens, pay attention,  O earth! For the Lord speaks:
“I raised children, I brought them up, but they have rebelled against me!

Father,

You are the only perfect parent and, yet, even You have children who rebel against You just as we do.  You know the pain of parents whose children are rejecting them, their advice, their lifestyles,  their values, everything. You love us even more fully than we can love our children. You know the pain and anguish we are feeling.

Thank you, Lord, for letting us know this.

 

July 8 Daily Verse

Saturday, September 29th, 2012

Psalm 92: 13-14

Those who are planted in the house of the Lord
Shall flourish in the courts of our God.
They shall still bear fruit in old age;
They shall be fresh and flourishing,

Father, many of us have children who need to be planted in Your house. All of us, as parents, want our children to flourish in life. We want them to have knowledge of the paths that lead them rightly. Father, we are grateful that you have blessed us.  We ask that You call our children to You as well.  Send Your love to them in waves they can’t ignore.  We so want to know that – once we are gone – You will be there with them helping them to flourish and bear fruit.

June 26 Daily Quote

Friday, September 28th, 2012

If someone is going down the wrong road, he doesn’t need motivation to speed him up. What he needs is education to turn him around.
Jim Rohn

 

This works the same way with our children. If their behavior is putting them on the wrong path, they don’t need encouragement to improve their self-esteem.  They need ‘education’. That means we parents have to provide guidance.  Put up fences.  Impose consequences for inappropriate behavior.  If we want to see true self-esteem for our little ones, we need them to have pride in what they do and who they are.  To have that pride, they need to get it right!  Let’s be the kind of parents to show them how.

July 17 Quote of the Day

Monday, September 17th, 2012

All parents believe their children can do the impossible. They thought it the minute we were born, and no matter how hard we’ve tried to prove them wrong, they all think it about us now.  And the really annoying thing is, they’re probably right.
Cathy Guisewite

 

Trust your parents opinion of you. You can do the impossible. All you have to do is try. Reach out for what you want in life. Find ways to accomplish those things people say can’t be done. The faith your parents have in you is justified.  So long as you trust in their belief in you, you will soar.  You may never reach the top of the mountain they thought you could conquer but you will, most certainly, get farther than you would have otherwise.

July 16 Quote of the Day

Monday, September 17th, 2012

Lack of pep is often mistaken for patience.
Kin Hubbard

If you are a parent, you will recognize this.  Your ability to ignore that tantrum your two-year-old is throwing has nothing to do with patience and everything to do with the fact that you’re just too tired to respond.  Not responding to that teen stamping up the stairs, shouting all the way, isn’t patience on your part.  It’s just your being sick and tired of responding to the same old argument Every Single Day.

When your “too-pooped-to-pop” (as my mother used to say), take a break.  Wave to your husband and walk out the door for a little bit.  Let someone else deal with the kids for just an hour.  Go for a walk.  Go for a drive.  Go anywhere.  Just go.  The whole family will benefit if you do.  Every job needs to offer their worker a break time even when the job is motherhood.

June 9 Daily Verse

Friday, September 14th, 2012

1 Samuel 3:12-13

In that day I will perform against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his house, from beginning to end. For I have told him that I will judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knows, because his sons made themselves vile, and he did not restrain them.

 

Father, we are thankful for the children You have given us. We love them with all our hearts. We always want what is best for them and work daily to provide a home for them that has all the blessings You can provide for them.

And, Father, while we’re doing this we try to discipline them and teach them to become men and women of God. We are trying to have them grow to be people with promise.

Help us to remember always that these children are Your gifts.

Help us always to keep in mind that we can’t let our love for them overcome our good judgment when training them. Father, remind us that sometimes love means saying ‘no’ and meaning it.  Show us ways to lovingly discipline them so that they may also learn to be children of Yours.

July 9 Daily Quote

Tuesday, September 11th, 2012

Gardens are not made by singing ‘Oh, how beautiful,’ and sitting in the shade.
Rudyard Kipling

 

If you truly want what’s beautiful in life, you’re going to have to work at it.

A good marriage, a child to be proud of,  a home that is a refuge from the workday world – all these things require effort.  Once you put forth the effort, you’ll be able to see the garden.  Then you can sing “oh, how beautiful.”

 

July 8 Daily Quote

Tuesday, September 11th, 2012

Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.
Henry Ford

 

Remember when you were a child and had been sent to your room to clean it after you and your friends had trashed it thoroughly? Remember how impossible the task seemed? Then your mother came and gave you some instructions.

She would say, first pick up all the dirty clothes. Now pick up the books on the floor.  Now put the toys in the toy box. She kept that up until you were able to do what you had considered impossible. It works the same now in adult life. The desk at the office, the seemingly overwhelming number of things that have to be done before bedtime, can sometimes make us feel like a child with a messy room again. When that happens, start listening to the voice of your inner mother.  Don’t stress.

Just take each task and break it into groups until you have managed to whittle down that pile of work.

July 7 Daily Quote

Tuesday, September 11th, 2012

Correction does much, but encouragement does more.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

Correcting your child when they are moving in the wrong direction is an important part of parenting. If your child learns from you that there are consequences for their inappropriate acts, they will be spared the need to learn it later from police and judges. However, it is also important that you don’t forget to praise and encourage them when they are doing well. The praise they receive will almost always lift them up to try even harder to do what is right. Correct them, yes, but never forget to affirm them.

Connections to the Heart

Sunday, September 9th, 2012

The little one got a new MP3 player for her birthday.  She is 7 and thinks she’s all grown up now. Her headphones are firmly planted in her ears most of the day.  She dances around the house to music only she can hear. We are breathing sighs of relief.  Sometimes, the constant noise of television, radio, CD players, etc can be overwhelming to us old people. We like silence.

She came to me yesterday with a comment that made me pause and think. She said ‘sometimes my songs connect to my heart.’ It occurs to me that it might be a good idea to stop and listen with her to the music she loves.

What ‘connects to her heart’ is going to shape her attitude and behavior.

As parents and grandparents, it’s important that we know what they listen to and connect with. We need to instill in our children the love of good music. The kind that lifts them up spiritually, that improves their attitudes, and teaches them to build bridges of love with their family and friends.  There is too much music in this world that can turn them away from what is good.  I want to be careful about what she sings.  I want to know the songs she loves and hear from her what the songs are saying to her when they connect to her heart.  I hope you’re listening to your little ones as well.