Posts Tagged ‘life’

May 25 Quote of the Day

Sunday, September 2nd, 2012

Thank you, God, for this good life and forgive us if we do not love it enough.
Garrison Keillor

 

 

I was doing my nightly stumbling and had a really neat page shared with me. A cartoon character was saying he didn’t want to live on this planet anymore. That comment was followed by numerous pictures of absolutely beautiful places I would love to see. The final frame was this same character saying he wanted to live forever. Life is often not what we want it to be but there are so many good and worthwhile reasons to enjoy life.  Next time you’re depressed and ready to quit, take a few minutes to look at the beauty that surrounds us, to think of all the things you would like to do yet, to remember all those who love you.

 

April 30 Quote of the Day

Monday, April 30th, 2012

A discovery is said to be an accident meeting a prepared mind.
Albert Szent-Gyorgyi

Often, children ask us why they have to take some class at school. Why do they have to learn something they will never use? Here is an answer. You will never discover anything new unless your mind has bits and pieces of information available. Someday your 15 minutes of fame may depend on the class you despised as a child.

April 16 Daily Quote

Sunday, April 15th, 2012

Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not.
Oscar Wilde

Children complain to us all the time about how unfair life is. The neighbor boy has a nicer bike, the neighbor girls Barbie house is bigger, relatives have more pets. The list goes on and on. We do the same thing as adults. We just pretend to be more sophisticated about it. As a parent, we remind our children that the neighbor boy may have the nicer bike but you have the pool, the girl has a bigger doll house but you have more dolls. It might be a good idea for us adults to remind ourselves of the good in our lives (a lot of which is not deserved) rather than obsess over the perceived lack.

March 11 Quote of the Day

Tuesday, April 10th, 2012

Each day provides it’s own gifts.
Marcus Aurelius

Does this day seem like it will never end? Has this day just begun and you are already dreading it? Remember this. Somewhere in this day will be a gift for you. Look for it! It’s there waiting to lift you up out of the doldrums and into a much sunnier atmosphere.

Are You Missing It?

Thursday, March 22nd, 2012

Last night the little one excitedly jumped into our bed to watch movies with me. Now, this wasn’t something she had never done before. Friday’s are her usual movie nights with Grandma and Grandpa but last night wasn’t a Friday. It was spring break from school. A week night and she got to fall asleep in Grandma and Grandpa’s bed while watching movies. So exciting! She explained to me that this was her ‘very first spring break!’. It was a little thing. But a moment I am so glad I didn’t miss!

A couple of years ago, the whole family got to be entertained by my niece who wandered around the house making comments like, “this is the first time in 2010 I walked down the stairs. This is the first time in 2010 I hugged my dad. This is the first time in 2010 I said that”. There were a lot of things she did for the first time in 2010.

Every day, every child in the world can walk around saying “this is the first time…….”. “This is my first …..” Our children are growing up and, too often, we are missing it. There is so much in our adult world that seems important – the meeting at work we don’t think we should miss, the paperwork we brought home from the office to do this evening, the laundry that needs done, the dishes that need washed. All those things are important. I don’t argue that. I’m wondering, though, about priorities. When the little one is making her very first basket in a basketball game, where are we? Is it possible we could have worked our schedule not to miss that game? Working mothers daily feel the pain of having the sitter see the first steps of their child, hear the first words and many other firsts. Economic needs must be met. Some things can’t be put aside. The question is – Are we trading our children’s childhoods for a nicer house or a nicer car? If we are, maybe we should rethink our priorities.

It’s not just the big things that can be evaluated. Sometimes all it takes to be at your child’s next first is a little rescheduling. Mom doesn’t need to stay home to do the dishes while Dad takes the little one to the game. Mom and Dad can both participate in their child’s life. The dishes can wait until the little one is in bed. Dad, the lawn won’t grow ten feet in one night. It’ll wait until the next day – when there isn’t an important event – to be mowed. You probably won’t get a fine from the neighborhood association over one day.

We have this day, this moment, with our little ones. No one can love them as we do. No one can have as important an impact on their lives. No one will enjoy their laughter as you do. Be there! Just be there. They’re growing up and experiencing life. To them it is so exciting. Don’t miss it.

March 3 Quote of the Day

Tuesday, March 6th, 2012

Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: if you’re alive, it isn’t.
Richard Bach

If you’re alive, you’re mission on Earth isn’t finished. If you’re reading this, you’re alive. Take a look around you and find your mission. If you don’t have a big one in mind, start with the little one. Is the neighbor next door a single parent? Watch the kids once in a while and give that parent a break. Does the elderly couple on the block need yard work done? Do it! Do you have more clothes in your closet than you will ever wear? Pack them up and donate them to your local family shelter. If you do enough of these little missions, you will make a big difference in the lives of those around you. In doing so, you will very likely find the mission you have been seeking.

My Canvas of Life is a Little Messy

Sunday, January 15th, 2012

You know that saying “life is like a canvas. Every day is a brush stroke”? Yesterday my brush stroke was a big blob of paint buried under a black blanket headache. Today it’s shades of gray interspersed with lightning flashes of blue in a dark sky of headache. Dancing around the edges of this sky of headache is a little butterfly who occasionally morphs into a gnat buzzing around my headache and then suddenly, without warning, turns into a mosquito that bites me causing red flashes of anger that I try to control with big brown buckets of mud I throw at her. She then slinks off, a little puppy with her tale between her legs and I sit on my recliner wallowing in puke-green feelings of guilt for taking out my pain on the butterfly in my life. I’m sure you get the picture. Some days the colors on my canvas are a little icky. I’m sure they are for you, too.

Everybody has those days. Those are the days when the people with the perky little upbeat sayings annoy the heck out of you. I’m pretty sure some of the posts I’ve written fall in that category for some of you readers. If so, that’s okay. Because everyone has days when every electrical appliance in the house goes on the blink (shortly after the warranty has run out). Or they have days when they want to stuff their boss headfirst in a garbage can and toss half their customers on top of him. Families tend to get the brunt of our emotions when those days come. While it’s not necessarily okay, it is understandable. Every now and then, we all should be allowed a day of wallowing in self-pity. It’s probably not a good idea to make a habit of it. The ones you love might run out of tolerance. It is a good idea at the end of those days to thank the husband for doing the dishes and standing in the gap for childcare. And you should also remember to remind the little one as you send her off to bed that you love her very much. Then you can look forward to the next day when you can paint the sun peaking out from behind the clouds and, when you do, you won’t feel quite so annoyed by the happy little flowers drying in the sun on your canvas.

Life Will Begin Shortly

Monday, January 2nd, 2012

The year 2012 has begun. For just a moment, let me challenge you to suspend reality temporarily and pretend that you are standing on a threshold. On this threshold is a guide who is explaining to you that life will begin shortly. Your life will begin at the age you are now. This guide offers you 10 minutes to make a list of anything that is currently in your life that you would like to take with you to start your new life. Anything left off the list will be left behind. Everything on the list will come with you. What will you put on your list?

Will your spouse and children come with you? Or will you choose to restart that part of your life again? What about your siblings? Will you leave them behind? Or your friends? Take a moment when deciding who, if anyone, should be left behind. Will you gain anything by leaving them behind? What might you lose without them?

What about the home you live in? Will you leave it off the list and take your chances on the home you will be placed in? Assuming, of course, that you will not find yourself homeless in this life you are about to start. What about the furnishings in this house? Will you dump any or all of it and take your chances on what is on the other side of the threshold? What about your vehicles? Can you leave those behind and hope you have your dream car on the other side? Just in case no car is provided, will public transit be okay with you? What about your career? Do you like your job or would you take your chances on having a better one? What about your hobbies? Are there habits that you would like to leave behind like smoking? Are there some activities that you do on a regular basis that you would just as soon leave behind?

What is in your life worth keeping?

May I suggest that if you have included almost everything you currently have on your list to take with you when you step over the threshold, then you have been truly blest. It is time to give thanks to anyone and everyone who has made your life what it is today. For those of you who have not been so blest, be grateful that life is a work in progress. Look at the things you have been willing to leave behind and ask yourself what you would like instead. Draw yourself a picture of what you want your life to be and make it your goal in 2012 to make your actual life look just like that picture.

Happy New Year!

Dancing in the Rain

Tuesday, December 6th, 2011

I spend a lot of my time wandering around the internet. I do what’s called ‘stumble’ from here to there looking for things that I find interesting. Recently, I came across an intriguing statement. It said, “you cannot control what happens to you but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you.” It reminded me that each one of us has our own little treadmill of life.

If you’re the stay-at-home mom, the treadmill consists of picking up toys day after day after day. You can complain about all the toys you pick up every single day, or you can try juggling the legos on the way to the toy box. Have a little fun while you work. You can complain about the drudgery of changing diapers every day or you can laugh at the little one who has just learned a new word. It’s ‘yucky!’ You can gripe about having to do homework every single night or you can be thankful for the one-on-one time with your third grader.

There are those of you that go to work everyday. It’s the same kind of scenario. Get up. Go to the office. Check the emails. Try not to be late for the endless weekly meeting. Do the same old thing day after day. You can wish you were somewhere else or you can tell one of your co-workers about the crazy lady on the freeway who was trying to put on make-up, drink coffee and drive all at the same time. Laugh with them about the dumb times you tried to do that yourself. You can sit there and glumly push ‘delete, delete, delete’ on each email or you can stop and savor the email from the satisfied customer. At the meeting, bask a little in the praise for your team’s successful completion of the latest project. Hold on to the good feeling it gives you through the droning of the boss on everything else that doesn’t interest you at all.

In other words, learn to see the unique in your life. If you can’t find anything unique, pick up a couple of legos and start juggling. Why? Because you can’t live life to the fullest when can’t enjoy the life you live. It was said best in another little bit of wisdom I picked up in my stumbling. “Life is about learning to dance in the rain.”

Good day? Bad Day?

Tuesday, September 13th, 2011

Today is a good day. There isn’t any particular reason why I can say this. My husband has a minor flu bug. My granddaughter is grounded for breaking a branch off the neighbors carefully cultivated bush that produces beautiful red flowers which she loves. The neighbors in question are not fond of us for various reasons. Our popularity with them has not increased over the incident. My freezer is lacking ice cream which is my current comfort food. Payday is still 9 days away so ice cream can’t be considered a viable use of emergency funds. The seasonal changes in the weather have caused a flare-up of my arthritis. We haven’t been able to put lottery ticket purchases into our budget so I have no hope of winning the lottery. But I have decided that today is a good day. Why? Why not? Would my day today be better if I focused on the negatives? I can bore you with the positives of my life and sound like a ‘Pollyanna’ but I suspect you would stick your finger down your throat and do the gag thing if I did that so I will spare you. I will remind you though, that I am ‘Mom’ and this is my site so I will do that thing that makes all my children roll their eyes and shake their heads. I will relay some advice I’ve read that doesn’t seem to have a particular source but is particularly wise: ‘Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.’ Happy beats grumpy, complain-y, unhappy every time! So I have decided. Today is a good day!!!