Posts Tagged ‘hangman’


Saturday, September 20th, 2014

Our 8-year-old granddaughter has reached the age where board games and other type of two player games are just her cup of tea.

One of the favorite games she likes to play is ‘hangman’. Her favorite person she likes to play it with is Grandpa. I find it interesting that two people who don’t know how to spell enjoy playing this game together. So I listened for a while and learned something. Turns out being a good speller isn’t really a requirement of ‘hangman’. You just need to agree on the rules.  For them, words can be spelled phonetically (or fun-ed-dick-lee) if you prefer. As long as the two of you can ultimately fill in the blanks, everything is good.

I guess it’s a lot like driving down the road.

If you live in the United States, don’t drive on the same side of the road as you would in England.  As long as you and the rest of the drivers agree on the rules of the road, you have a fair chance of getting to your destination.

If you stop to think about it, your success in any endeavor you undertake with one or more people, is almost always assured if you can just agree on the rules. Some of the most unlikely couples, make a success of their marriages. Why? Because the two of them agreed on the important things of life; their finances, their living situations, their plans for the future and their plans for their careers and family. Why do some families have so little conflict while others struggle to make it through a day without an argument? Because the rules are agreed on and obeyed by all. Conflict comes when rules get broken.  And when you talk about the people you love, emotional hurt from the broken rules is so much more painful than it would be in the general public.

Are you and your spouse going through some difficult times? Maybe this would be a good time to sit down and establish some guidelines to live by.  Are the kids totally out of control? Might be good to sit them down and explain that there are rules of conduct that they are expected to observe.

All relationships are complicated.  Set up some rules. Peace will reign a lot more often if you can make and observe them.