Posts Tagged ‘habits’

Rescues

Sunday, September 1st, 2013

The Little Guy is three months old now. The world around him is becoming very intriquing to him. We hung little toys on the bars of his swing so they were just barely within his reach. At first, he just watched them in fascination. But lately, he’s begun to try to reach for them.

His little hands fly up above his face as they reach for the toys. This distracts him because he hasn’t quite fully realized that those hands are attached to him.

He watches them fly around above him, getting more and more excited the faster they move. Suddenly, one of his little hands makes contact with one of the toys. As his hands do with anything they touch, they grabbed the toy in a death grip. Now, not only were the hands moving but the toys were moving as well. His excitement knew no bounds. The more excited he became, the faster everything moved above him. At first, this was cause for a giggle. Then it got kind of scary. Everything was moving so quickly and he didn’t know how to stop it. His little fists had been taught to hold on and now, when he needed to, he didn’t know how to let go. He needed rescuing.

As adults, we face a similar situation in the habits we form. At first, they are fascinating. So we grab hold and start swinging. These little habits bring us so much joy, sometimes making us feel really cool. Any teenager who ever started smoking knows that ‘coolness’ factor. Finally reaching the age of 21 and being allowed to drink is a milestone many wait for eagerly. Some even sneak in early to that milestone because it makes them feel soooo very sophisticated and suave. There are other more insidious habits like illegal drugs, even some legal drugs, pornography addictions, and many other things that destroy the fabric of our lives when we hold on to them too tightly. Sometimes we need rescued.

Remember this if there is a habit in your life that is hurting you and you don’t know how to let go. Seek out the ones who do know. Sometimes it’s in support groups with people who have been there before you.

Sometimes it’s in counseling. Sometimes it’s as simple as reaching out to the ones you love for help. Whatever it is that is making your life less than what you want it to be, find a way to let it go.

June 18 Daily Quote

Tuesday, September 25th, 2012

Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints.  It’s something you weren’t born with and must take responsibility for forming.
Jim Rohn

 

Who would you like to be? Discounting finances and popularity, what type of person you would like to become?   Take a look at the people in your life that you really admire.  Pick a character trait they have that you would like to have.

Spend each day this month concentrating on building that trait into your character.

It only takes 30 days to build a habit. Wouldn’t it be great if you could build a character that others could admire just by taking the time each day for 30 days to work on becoming the man or woman you would like to be? Give it a try.

Can’t Stop Smoking

Thursday, July 14th, 2011

Q: I am so sick of everyone telling me to stop smoking! I’ve tried. I’ve been smoking two packs a day for at least a year. Even if I didn’t crave the nicotine, it’s just too much of a habit for me to break. I tried a program my company paid for. I managed a whole week while I was at work. But on the weekend, while I was home alone, I just kept grabbing cigarettes without even thinking. I tried to stop myself but by the time the weekend was over, I had smoked a whole pack. So maybe you should start telling people to mind their own business! We smokers know it’s not good for us. We just can’t do anything about it.

A: People who care about you are always going to be encouraging you to live a healthier life. After all, they love you and want you around for a while. And you can do something about it! You are seeing yourself as a failure when, in fact, you were improving. You tell me you smoked two packs a day for almost a year. All week, you smoked nothing. And then, on the weekend, when you did smoke, you only smoked one pack. That’s three packs better than you had been doing before you started the program. Everything you do in life takes practice to get it right. Those Olympic swimmers didn’t just jump in the water and start swimming. It took practice to get it right. They were slow at first but they kept on pushing. You do the same thing with that smoking habit. Just keep on practicing until you get it right.