Posts Tagged ‘emotions’

July 30 Quote of the Day

Sunday, September 1st, 2013

Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.
Brian Tracy

 

Just a little thought to remind you to take some time each day to relax and rejuvenate. For some a nice warm,  bubble bath.  For some a few minutes reading the paper. For others,  just some alone time in their favorite thinking spot. Whatever does it for you, make it a ritual each day. Calm your mind.  Get everything placed neatly on the balance beam of your life.  It is only then that you can face each part of your life with the quality of care you most want to show.

 

 

March 8 Quote of the Day

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.
Berthold Auerbach

Sometimes it is good just to sit in the quiet of the night and listen to the music of your choice. It helps polish off your day. It shines up the parts of your life that are worth keeping and wipes away the rest.

Parenthood Has It’s Drawbacks

Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

Parenthood has it’s drawbacks. This is something that you will start noticing almost immediately upon conception. For mom, it’s morning sickness and mood swings. For dad, it’s mom’s mood swings and her cravings. Everyone assures you that this will pass the moment that little bundle of joy is placed in your arms. They tell you the little one will be worth it all. You live for that moment. You live through the back aches, the Lamaze classes, the sleep deprivation caused by a kicking ball in your stomach (that incidentally, you thought was so cute the first time you felt it.) You live through the 4 a.m. dash to the hospital followed by several hours of contractions until the final moment the little one is placed in your arms. For some, this moment is pure joy. For others, it is a combination of wonder and fear – maybe even panic – as you realize that you are responsible for this little thing in your arms and you wonder what on earth you have done.

So you bring the little one home. You realize that you aren’t going to be sleeping the night for quite some time but everyone assures you that this sweet bundle will be worth every moment. Once home, you realize that people have glossed over the wet and dirty diapers and the smell in the house from the wet and dirty diapers. No one mentioned that you would spend the next six months to a year with spit-up on every outfit you have been wearing for more than 10 minutes. They’ve also failed to mention the panic you feel when the little one cries and you don’t know what’s wrong! You’re the parent. You should instinctively know, right? Not so. You don’t always know.

You stumble on through parenthood. As the toddler years approach, you dash around inserting child guards on electrical outlets, child locks on cupboard doors (which smash your fingers every third time you try to open the darn thing). The terrible twos arrive. As the little bundle of joy throws himself screaming and kicking on the floor, you feel the natural pull to join him. Most parents do manage to control themselves and maintain a mature demeanor, especially if others are around. Three-year-olds scream ‘I hate you!’ at least twice a day, four-year-olds are fairly human, five-year-olds know everything because their kindergarten teacher told them (You aren’t their teacher. You will never reach that lofty height.) Children continue through life causing all kinds of chaos as they go. You – the parent – have to maintain self-control while properly training this less-than-perfect human being you have brought into the world.

So, if parenthood has all these drawbacks, why on earth do we do this to ourselves? The answer is simple. Every now and then some magic occurs; the baby smiles at you for the first time, you watch them sleep and realize how beautiful they are, the little one laughs in pure delight at a new discovery, they sleepily crawl into your lap and say “I love you Mommy”. It’s at these points that you realize that others may have glossed over the downside of parenting but they were right about one thing. This little one is worth it all

Music is a Reflection of Our Attitudes

Tuesday, October 25th, 2011

I remember my father as being a very loving man but also a very stubborn man. He knew what he wanted in his home and insisted that he got it. We children knew that swift consequences would come if his rules weren’t obeyed. He was stern about the music played in our home. Certain standards had to be met. Back when I was young, music came on flat, round discs called ‘records’. (I’m sure most of your know what they are. I’m just describing them for you young whippersnappers) They were expensive and breakable. Dad didn’t hesitate to break any record that came into our home that had vulgar language or questionable morals. As a teenager, it didn’t seem all that important to me that a few four-letter words might be found in the music I listened to. As an adult, I realize that it matters what music you listen to! Music has been with us since time began.  Birds were singing happy morning songs, breezes were blowing gentle harmony, hurricanes were pounding angry symphonies for as long as man has been in existence.  Man heard and imitated all of this.  The type of music we sang reflected our emotions.  Anger was in deep pounding bases, or sometimes high discordant notes.  Love was a gentle, tender, compelling song; hopelessness a steady monotone beat.  Today our music comes to us in every conceivable way.  Country singers tell of love lost or betrayed, rap music angrily denounces society and flaunts it’s rebellion with language and attitudes most find offensive.  Heavy metal and rock pushes the limits bringing a feeling of anger and discord.  So-called popular music appeals more to the masses and speaks of love, anger, loneliness, etc that most can identify with.

Why is all this important today? Because our attitudes and our emotions are influenced by the music we listen to.  Man was meant to have a song.  That song can lift you up or it can bring you down. It can express your anger or offer your forgiveness. It can influence how we think and what we do. More importantly, it can take the feelings you have and swell them to irrational highs or lows.  It is not a coincidence that crime and violence are rampant in areas where angry rap music is prevalent. It is not a coincidence that an infant falls into a restful sleep at the sound of a lullaby. It is not a coincidence that we feel uplifted at the sounds of Handel’s Messiah. It’s important for us and our families that we take stock of the music in our homes. When our children are singing songs with words that say ‘I want to start a fight’, it’s time to sit up and take notice. Do we want our homes to express that attitude? Or do we want our homes to express love and acceptance. Whatever we want in our families, we need to find the right accompaniment. And, as my father used to do, we need to throw out the trash.