Posts Tagged ‘choices’

August 4 Quote of the Day

Thursday, September 19th, 2013

Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you.

Clement Stone


It is interesting to note that the man who made this statement grew up in poverty. His father died when he was young leaving him to be raised by a single mom. He was born into poverty but he didn’t choose to stay there.  None of us have to choose to stay in an environment that is toxic. All of us here in America are free to decide to change our environment. It might not be easy. It couldn’t have been easy for a six-year-old W. Clement Stone to sell newspapers on street corners but he did it. It takes effort and determination to remove ourselves from negative situations. Like a mountain climber trying to reach the peak, we must focus on the goal. We have to see past the muscle pain, the exhaustion, the cold and discomfort to reach the top.

The environment in which we find ourselves doesn’t have to be the environment in which we choose to live. If the environment you currently live in isn’t the one you want for yourself, visualize the environment you want.  Then go get it!


July 21 Daily Quote

Sunday, September 2nd, 2012

Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get knocked down by the traffic from both sides.
Margaret Thatcher


The middle of the road is also very emotionally draining. Should I? Shouldn’t I? Why? Why not? I can do it. What if I can’t?  If you’ve ever stood trying to make a decision, you know the turmoil you live in.

Standing there with questions racing through your head, dodging traffic and hoping for the best but not knowing which way to go to get the best is like bracing yourself in a hurricane force wind. If you want to stop the wind from blowing, you’re going to have to make a decision. Pick a lane of traffic and get in it! If it’s not the right one, you can always take an exit down the road and turn around. What’s important is that you get out of the middle of the road.


May 26 Quote of the Day

Sunday, September 2nd, 2012

I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.
Groucho Marx


What a great attitude to have! What happened yesterday, happened. It’s done. Over. Finished. Through. The problems of tomorrow aren’t here yet. They’ll cause enough trouble when they get here tomorrow.  No sense worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Be happy in today.  It’s what you have.

April 2 Quote of the Day

Sunday, April 1st, 2012

Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
Eleanor Roosevelt

All too often, we are handed choices which will be unpopular with someone. Understand that you will not be content in taking the popular route. True contentment can only come when you are at peace with yourself. To be at peace with yourself, you must do what is right even when others will be unhappy with you.

Love is Just a Choice

Thursday, July 21st, 2011

Sometimes love is just a choice. I was reminded of this a few weeks ago while I was visiting a couple I know. During my visit, the husband was being fairly overbearing towards his wife. She was getting quite angry when suddenly she just turned to him and said, “I love you.” It was obviously not said in a romantic, sentimental way. It was clearly a decision on the part of the wife to love her husband regardless. The best thing happened when she did that. Her husband recognized how he was treating her and changed his tone and attitude. Admittedly, he didn’t apologize but the potential argument was derailed. I realized then that choosing to love someone regardless of their faults is the true secret of a good, solid marriage. The song says “some say love is a river, a razor, a hunger” but I say the strongest love is the one that chooses to love even when that person has his moments of unloveableness (if Shakespeare can make up words, so can I!).


Marriages Made in Heaven

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Alfred Lord Tennyson once said that ‘in the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love.’ That can pretty much be said of a young woman as well. And parents throughout the country – while watching their children be blinded by the stars in their eyes – are wondering how it is that marriages today manage to even keep a 50/50 chance of survival. So I’m offering a little advice to children of marrying age. Simply stated – it is time to start listening to the wisdom of your parents. Relying on the age-old ‘no man is good enough for daddy’s little girl’ and ‘no woman will ever take proper care of mommy’s baby boy’ just isn’t going to cut it. If that woman you are marrying is, in fact, ‘daddy’s little girl’ and that man you’ve decided to spend your life with is ‘momma’s baby boy’, you’ve got problems. Successful marriages require that the men and women involved be mature enough to live an everyday life after the stars in their eyes have faded and reality has set in. If you’re wanting your marriage to have a better than average chance of survival, take a closer look at the future with the one you believe is the man or woman for you.
Let’s begin with you, ladies. You don’t necessarily need the man that every woman in town is trying to get. Particularly if he has cheerfully allowed himself to be caught by every woman in town. If he likes to play around now with every woman he meets, he might just be stupid enough to keep it up after marriage. Or, is he one of those guys that gets invited to every party? Can he drink all his buddies into the ground? Does he keep every party going all night long? That might be fun now but is being the designated driver every Friday night for 50 years really what you want. Actually, when I think about it, you probably won’t be able to be the designated driver for long. Someone will need to stay home with Junior when he’s teething. The laundry will have to be done, the house cleaned, the yard mowed. Someone will have to have a job to pay the taxi driver who has taken over your designated driver duties. So find yourself a stable man. One who knows how to have fun but knows when fun interferes with responsibility. One who respects the women in his life enough to not take advantage of every woman he meets. If you find that kind of a man, you’ll know that when he comes to you, his love is real. And then, just for a bonus, if you can find a man who will speak up for those who can’t speak up for themselves and who has the heart to help others, then you’ve got yourself a real keeper.
Guys, I know most people agree that your brain is located a little lower than your head, maybe just south of your belt buckle, but lets assume for a minute that you can actually think on a more intellectual level. Are you really sure the totally stacked prom queen is the woman you want to spend your life with? She may actually be a winner. I’m just saying – is looks the only criteria you have for a wife? Good looks take time. And money. That hairdo she has took a great deal of both at a hairdresser. And that make-up she’s sporting wasn’t cheap either. The dress that shows off her body so perfectly took several days of shopping to find and she maxed out daddy’s credit card paying for it. So lets take a quick peak into the future. The wife looks great! She keeps that way because you have a really great job that pays for the liposuction after the baby’s birth and the personal trainer who keeps her in shape. Your job also needs to pay for the beauty parlor visits, the make-up and the wardrobe that keeps her up to date and stylish. There is also the nanny you pay who cares for your children while mommy is out doing all this shopping, etc. And, of course, someone has to keep the dishes done (not Mommy! It would ruin her nails) so the housekeeper comes in daily to see to that chore and others. But Mommy looks great! Of course, Mommy needs somewhere to go to show off all this glamour and she needs an escort to do it. That escort – we hope – is you so the nanny bills just got higher and the credit cards are smoking from use at all the events you now need to attend. Let me suggest that a wife a little more grounded would be a better life companion. Someone with goals in life besides being the most beautiful woman on the block. Someone you can present with pride to your friends as, not only one who cares for herself, but one whose career – whether if be lawyer, doctor, nurse, business consultant or homemaker – is of outstanding quality. One who is capable of looking to the future and preparing her family for it. Now there is a woman who can be a companion, a friend, a lover, throughout your life when her beauty has faded and your waistline has expanded.
Marriage is not all about the fireworks and lovemaking that begin your life together. Marriage is about the ‘happily ever after’s. And in order to attain those ‘happily ever after’s you need a couple who are grounded in reality even while they are floating in the clouds. So in this time of weddings and honeymoon preparations, let’s listen to the concerns of our parents. Are the questions they are presenting to you ones that are dangers signs for the things to come? Is so, listen! Be sure you’ve looked at the future with this spouse you have chosen. Does the good outweigh the bad? If it does, congratulations! Have a wonderful life. If it doesn’t, you might want to rethink your commitment before it becomes a lifetime struggle.

Itsy Bitsy Spider

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

I was thinking about that Itsy Bitsy spider. The one that keeps trying to get to the top of the waterspout. People say that we could learn a lot from that spider. Mainly they think we can learn about persistence in the face of adversity. But I’m thinking persistence is a bad thing on the part of that spider. What’s the point in getting to the top of the spout? Next time it rains, he’s going to get washed out again. Rain is inevitable. It comes. But then again, he’s made it to the top. So we should hail him as a success. Right? What’s up there, though? He’s made it to the top. He can build a nest there. But is his family secure? It’s a pretty precarious spot to be. The rain keeps coming and he and his family are going to get washed down again. Maybe some of them will be injured or even killed. Certainly they will all be on a constant roller coaster dependent on the whims of the weather. I think the persistence of that spider could have been used in the pursuit of a better goal. Maybe he should have looked first and said ‘do I really want to get to the top of this spout? Is that really the best location for me?’ I think we can extrapolate that to any number of areas in our lives. You can start with looking at the home on the top of that hill with the really nice view that can strap you financially for years. So is it really what you want? Or that on-again, off-again relationship that you keep trying to make work. Do you really want that type of relationship to become permanent? What about that career choice you’ve made? It gives you a nice six figure income but is it really worth it when you consider that 50 or 60 hours a week are being spent at the office leaving you so little time with your spouse, your children and other loved ones. These aren’t all the issues we face in life but I think you can see my point. Persistence is a good thing usually. Persistence is necessary when we face difficulties in reaching the goals we’ve set for ourselves. And setting goals is necessary so that we can succeed – so that we can have the life we’ve always dreamed of. All I’m saying is, if you’re that itsy bitsy spider on your way to the top, be sure the top is where you really want to be.