August 7th Quote of the Day

September 18th, 2014

•”Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”
Albert Einstein

I know a few people who subscribe wholeheartedly to this attitude. Reality is an illusion so why not just shape it to fit yourself.

If something isn’t the way you like it or want it, just make up a story and stick to it! Who cares if nobody else saw the same thing you did? Who cares if nobody else remembers things the way you do? It’s an illusion anyway so just enjoy the one you made and let the others enjoy their memories. So what if people call you delusional, daft, wacko and other not-so-favorable names. You like your life the way you remember it. Let the rest of the world beat their heads against brick walls when you come around because you just don’t care!

 

Let me say to those of you dealing with people like that – give up on the idea of changing them.  They are not going to come around! You are just going to give yourself a headache hitting those brick walls.

 

After all, what is the reason for working to change them? Just because they’re wrong? They like themselves that way! People only change when they are ready. If they have no reason suitable for them to want to change, they won’t. If you’re trying to work with them because what they are doing and saying is hurting themselves or others, then give yourself that headache. It’s worth it if you can keep someone from hurting themselves.

But if it’s not hurting anyone, let it go. If hanging around them just bugs you that much, then distance yourself wherever you can. I realize family members, co-workers and others aren’t so easy to avoid but you can limit your contact. For your own peace of mind, for your own emotional well-being, sometimes that’s all you can do. If you have to meet up with them – if you have to take a stand because others are being harmed – then do it.

 

If not, there are plenty of other people who are uplifting to be around and who can ease your daily walk.

July 24 Verse of the Day

September 17th, 2014

“Because he loves me”, says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble. I will deliver him and honor him.” Psalm 91: 14-16

Father. in a world where danger meets us at every turn, we need Your protection. Just everyday living brings turmoil and, often, outright danger to ourselves and those we love. When those times come, Lord, when tornadoes strike, when flooding threatens our homes, rescue us. Protect us in times of trouble.  Deliver us, Lord, from all evil.

 

July 21 Verse of the Day

September 12th, 2014

Then Jesus said: “Come…”
Matthew 11:28
New Living Translation

Lord, may we always hear and obey when you call us to come. It is astounding that You, who are above all others, would care to call us. But You do. You love us and say “come”. When we are tired, upset, angry, depressed, You call us to come.  You lift those burdens for us. When we are happy, relaxed, calm, serene, You call us to come and let You share in our joy

 

We are so grateful that the King of Kings and Lord of Lords would want to be with us.  Lord, be with us always.  Never let us forget to come.

 

July 23 Verse of the Day

September 11th, 2014

1 Thessalonians 5: 16 – 18
(NET Bible)

Always rejoice, constantly pray, in everything give thanks.  For this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Father, sometimes when our tears fall or our pain is intense, we can’t see where You are taking us.

Sometimes – almost every time – we overlook the fact that this is the will of Your Son concerning us and anything that is Your will can only bring us good. We know this but still we hurt and still we cry. Come to us in our need and while we pray. Where it is not possible for us to have joy, give us Your joy.  Where peace is lacking, send peace.  And in everything, Lord, we will give You all thanks for no one can love us as You do.

 

August 8th Quote of the Day

September 7th, 2014

All I ever really needed to know, I learned in kindergarten.
Robert Fulghum

The older I get the more I realize that I need a little refresher course in kindergarten. You’ve heard of those ‘crusty old men’.  You know, the ones who speak their mind without caring what other people think or how it may affect other people?  There have been occasions where I am a ‘crusty old woman’.  We make jokes and laugh about the people who become like this as they get older. We even envy them just a little their right to talk as they do. After all, they’re old,  so we give them leeway. My concern, as I reach that age and begin to behave in that manner, is that I’ve forgotten the kindergarten teachings.

 

The ones that say ‘be kind’. I’m not senile enough to have forgotten the ‘don’t hit’ class but I sometimes think I may be hitting with my words. As I walk through the mall or the grocery store, I hear a lot of other people who have forgotten those teachings, too.

I hear a lot of kids who don’t seem to have learned them in kindergarten. Maybe the kids learned them but haven’t had the teachings modeled for them at home. It’s possible they should give remedial kindergarten classes at our local community colleges.

 

If they did, it might be a good one for me to take.

Up to Our Necks in Water

September 6th, 2014

Sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. I don’t know how to slow down the madness. Doctor’s appointments here. Dentists, eye doctors, therapists. Kids to teach, laundry to do, a house to clean, groceries to buy. Sometimes I sit so tired, so needing a break. I grab a few minutes of quiet wherever I can. So little time for me. Now the daughter says she is bringing another little one into the world. We will love the little one. There’s no question about that.

 

But there are a few problems to solve. The car we bought has the right amount of seatbelts for the family we have now.  We need more  seatbelts. The time for the little ones we have is limited. It will need to be split even more. The daughter, never one to be patient, is even more impatient with the demands of the baby on her body and mind. The father of the child wants to be in our lives but we don’t know him. Grandpa says it’s like being in a bathtub full of water. The more people you add, the higher the water gets. We’re up to our necks.

Have you been there? Probably have. Hold on tight.  Grandpa says we just have to adjust to the water levels.  He could be right.

If you’re having trouble adjusting, let this be a safe place to spout.  Say what you think in the comments.  Nobody will give your name.  I will monitor comments.  I don’t need a bunch of advertisements.  I just want this to be a place to talk.

 

July 25 Verse of the Day

September 6th, 2014

2 Timothy1:12
New English Translation

I know the one in whom my faith is set and I am convinced that he is able to protect what has been entrusted to me until that day.

Father, how great You are and how thankful we are to know You. You have promised to never leave us or forsake us.  We are confident that no matter where we are, we are never lost. No matter what is happening in our lives, You are there. And no matter how often fear tries to overcome us, we can always be reminded that You are able to protect us and those who have been entrusted to us.

 

We can never give enough thanks or praise for all You do in our lives.

 

July 26 Verse of the Day

September 4th, 2014

Jeremiah 29:11

New English Translation (NET)

‘ For I know what I have planned for you,’ says the Lord. ‘I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you.  I have plans to give you a future filled with hope’.

 

Father,

You are so good.  You have plans for me, Lord. Wonderful ones. Plans that include the hopes and dreams You have given me.  You know about my dreams and aspirations but, more importantly, You know the future that will be the most fulfilling for me.  You do that for all of us.  Sometimes it’s something we never thought of.  Yet, you knew us from the beginning.  You saw us and said, “they’ll love this.”

 

Sometimes it’s something we have worked hard and long to achieve.  You’ve been with us every step of the way, making our hopes into reality.

Whatever the circumstances, it is Your plan. We are grateful.  Thank you.

You Have a Brain in Your Head

September 2nd, 2014

Our little Princess has been having some problems lately. They involve accepting responsibility for her actions.

 

It’s hard to do that even as adults but for her – the one who has always been perfect in the eyes of her Grandpa – it seems especially hard. She tries to explain that she had to do what she did. Her friend told her to. Of course, we know the ‘if your friends all jumped off a cliff’ saying and we go ahead and say it. She tries other arguments. The ones that go, I didn’t think you would care just this once and I can’t help myself. I just do it without thinking. And there is always ‘the devil made me do it’. Somehow we just aren’t buying any of them.

The other day, since consequences and the ‘jumping off a cliff’ talk wasn’t working, I decided to try a different quote.

This one from Dr.  Seuss. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.  You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.”  I know she understands this.  For her, the difficulty comes when her friends want her to do what she knows is wrong.  She gives in and then compounds the problem by refusing to accept her responsibility.

It’s not her fault. She had to do it.

Thinking about this – and being frustrated about my inability to get through to her – I searched for examples of adult behavior in these same circumstances. I was struck by how often we, who should be showing her how to stand up for what is right, have been modeling for her the behavior she uses. It’s not our fault we yelled obscenities at the driver in the car next to us.  He was driving like an idiot and, besides, I had a rough day at work. It’s not my fault.  I didn’t remember it was my turn to bring the snacks to the kids sports game. I was busy with things at work and forgot. It’s not my fault is our battle cry. When we hang out with the kind of people we tell them to avoid, when we shirk our responsibilities, when we break those little pesky speed limit laws, even in the littlest things, we can’t just say “I screwed up. I’m sorry.” When it comes to the big things —– well, let’s just not go there.

I’ve decided to focus a little more carefully on accepting responsibility myself. After all, even though she won’t admit it, she models herself after me and her mother and her grandfather. We are the ones responsible for showing her how a true adult acts just as you are responsible for showing your children how they should act.  Let’s all work a little harder at being the mature adult we hope they will someday become.

July 22 Verse of the Day

September 2nd, 2014

Your word is a lamp for my feet and a light for my path.
Psalm 119:105
Holman Christian Standard Bible

Your word is a lamp to walk by, and a light to illumine my path.
Psalm 119:105
NET Bible

Father, Your Word was given to us as a guide.

 

A lamp to keep us on the right path in a dark world. A light to show us the next step on the way You would have us go.  Lord, we’re here today to ask for your guidance. Many of us are frightened and insecure when faced with uncertainty.  Remind us, Lord, that there is no uncertainty for us.  You know exactly where we are and where you have planned for us to go.  Sometimes you tell us clearly where to go and sometimes we just trust to take that next step by the light You have given.  So today, Lord, lead us. Bring us to an understanding of Your will and gently nudge us along the path You have marked out for us.