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Good for Evil

Sunday, September 10th, 2017

God is good. A very present help in times of trouble. You guys have probably heard that before. And you’ve probably wondered why God allows so much bad to happen to so many who, we are told, He loves.

It’s been on my mind a lot.  After all, it’s been a tough year at our house.   While thinking about it, I came across an old Bible story I’ve read and heard a thousand times before but this time something new struck me.  It was the story of Joseph being sold into slavery by his brothers. If you want tough times, that would do it. Your own brothers want to get rid of you and do it in the most cruel way possible. Joseph endured some rough patches as a slave. About the time he makes it to the top as a slave and life is improving, he gets thrown into prison for something he didn’t do.  Still, he doesn’t lose faith.  Eventually he is removed from prison and becomes second in command to Pharaoh and saves all Egypt and many others from famine. During the famine, his brothers come to him for food for their family.  After a little give and take over some time, Joseph lets his brothers know who he is and assures them, he isn’t angry.  He told them that what they had meant for evil, God had meant for good. Now that’s amazing insight.  Thousands of people would have starved had Joseph not been in tune with what God was saying. Joseph heard and responded in spite of the fact that he was a slave and in prison.

I suspect Jesus disciples stood at the foot of the cross and watched Him die unable to see any good in this. But Jesus’ death was necessary to complete God’s plan. The one where Jesus now holds the keys to death and hell.   He came to seek and to save those of us who are lost. His death was necessary to accomplish that goal.  He knew that.

We are just human. We don’t always understand. Sunday, our pastor spoke of Paul stuck at home under house arrest for two years. I’m sure Paul couldn’t picture how he could carry out God’s command to spread the gospel while he was stuck at home.  But, two thousand years later, we know Paul was writing letters that would eventually become a large part of the New Testament.  He’s been spreading the gospel for better than 2000 years.   He just didn’t know that was  how it would turn out. Bad things happen.  Often to good people.

God is bigger.  He can make them good.

Joseph – a Valuable Member of the Nativity Scene

Monday, September 12th, 2016

This is the time of year when people do a lot of focusing on Mary, the Mother of Jesus. We marvel at what a wonderful person she must have been to have God choose her for the Mother of His Son.

We spend so much time focusing on her that we overlook a really key player in this earthly family of Christ.  It’s the man God chose to be the earthly father of Christ.

God didn’t just come to Mary to discuss the arrival of this child. Certainly, He sent His angel to let her know what the plan was and Mary, in essence, said “whatever You want, I will do.” Mary made her choice.  I am convinced she had the option to agree or decline.  It must have taken a great deal of inner strength to agree to such a life-changing event. But God didn’t send His angel only to Mary. He also sent him to Joseph.  The Bible tells us that Joseph was a Godly man who knew that he had a tough choice to make where Mary was concerned. She was pregnant and single. Totally unacceptable to the church of his time – or to anyone for that matter. In today’s world, he could easily have been the man who said, ‘not my kid; not my problem’ just before walking out the door.

Not so for Joseph. He accepted his responsibility as fiancee’ for Mary and was working on his options when God sent His angel to have a talk with Joseph.  Joseph, too, made a choice. He accepted the responsibility of raising God’s Son.

I find it interesting to note that the Bible tells us that Mary watched everything that happened and ‘pondered it in her heart.’ It was Joseph that was the do-er in the family. Further instructions for the protection of the child were given to him. The angel was sent to Joseph to warn him to take the child somewhere safe.  Joseph just went to Mary and said ‘pack up. We’re out of here.’ Later, it was again Joseph who is told that it is safe to return home.  When he did come back, he went to Nazareth. I’ve wondered about that some. My pastor says there was a lot of construction going on near there so maybe Joseph was just going where the jobs were.  Part of me wonders, though, if he was still protecting Jesus and Mary.  Protecting them from the stigma of being born to an unwed mother – a truly scandalous thing in those days.  Even if the circumstances of His birth did become known, Nazareth was a tough town by all accounts. People said, “can any good come out of Nazareth?” So with any luck at all, nobody would care.

Jesus, Himself, became a carpenter like his earthly father, Joseph. Tells me that Joseph spent some time teaching Jesus a trade and Jesus respected him enough to be willing to to spend some time following in his footsteps. The type of earthly father Jesus should have was as important to God as the earthly mother He chose. It was a team effort – this raising of Jesus. As a team, they went hunting Him when He was missing from the traveling group at the age of 12.  It was Joseph who scolds him saying “your mother and I were searching for You”.

Fathers, just because the woman is the one who gives birth doesn’t make her the only one responsible for the training and the upbringing of the child. Your input is critical. God shows us that by the care He took in choosing Joseph. He shows us that by letting us know that it is Joseph to whom He gave instructions on the safety and protection of the child.  Be the man God wants you to be. Seek His guidance as head of your household. Never underestimate the importance of your role.

Spring Cleaning

Saturday, September 20th, 2014

All I wanted to do today was spring clean the kitchen. I didn’t want to spring clean the whole house. I knew that would never happen. I just wanted the kitchen to be nice and freshly cleaned. Did it happen? Of course not!

The lawyer had let us know yesterday that all background checks were in and Grandpa and I had to go down to sign the final legal papers on the boys. No problem. We could be home by 11 and still get everything done.

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  • Courthouses do not have small children. Therefore, court houses stay on schedule. We were home by 11. Homes are where the scheduling problems begin. Children live there. Children who decide to sleep in for the babysitter (never for me) so are still lounging around in their pajamas, finishing breakfast. I’m still on a roll. I can do this.

    An hour later the kids are dressed and playing and I am reminded the poodle needs a haircut and bath. I do this myself to save money and to cause frustration for myself just because I don’t have enough things to frustrate me. An hour and a half later, the dog is looking good. I wash one of the kitchen windows and the bench for our breakfast nook. The Little Guy screams for lunch. The Little Guy falls asleep in his high chair while everyone is eating. Asics Gel lyte 3 Heren If I lay him in his crib, he will wake up in ten minutes and realize that he has been abandoned – God forbid!- and he will protest this injustice loudly. So I bow to the inevitable and lay down on my bed with him. He wakes up just enough to squirm closer to me. Happily cuddled up against me, he falls back to sleep. I decide I wouldn’t trade anything for this little naptime with the our special boy.

    Two hours later, Grandpa wakes me to let me know he needs to run an errand so I get up to keep an eye on Nature Boy and Princess. Nature Boy is finally learning to leave his clothes on. Someday he will learn to stay out of the pool in the middle of March. Nike Air Max 2017 Homme Until then, he needs to be closely supervised when outdoors. And, of course, the Little Guy soon realizes he has been left alone and is sobbing on the bed. The three of them keep me moving until Grandpa returns. Yes, I’m ready to start again! The Girl Scouts arrive with their cookies.

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  • The Little Guy has to have his picture taken eating his very first Girl Scout cookie. It’s peanut butter and chocolate and is the best food he has every had. By the time he is done, he is chocolate from head to toe. More time consumed.

    Nature Boy then insists on ‘dink peas tank you’. The refrigerator yields only white milk and precious little of that. I give him a cup. He patiently returns the cup to the refrigerator and again asks for ‘dink peas tank you’. New Balance 678 m?skie New Balance 1600 m?skie I make grape kool aid.

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    It’s time to make dinner. Kyrie 2 Scarpe I AM NOT MAKING DINNER. I am going to spring clean the kitchen. I run to the store for milk and chocolate and through the drive through for burgers and fries. At home, Princess meets me at the door. The dog got out. More time spent finding the dog! Grandpa, busy trying to find out how the dog got out, is otherwise distracted while the Little Guy spreads dog food and dog water all over the kitchen floor and Nature Boy covers himself in mud. By 9 o’clock the children are fed, bathed and in bed. The dog water has been wiped up from the kitchen floor and I figure the dogs will eat the food before morning.

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    So why do I tell you this? Because this is the Advice From Mom column and I – as the reigning Mom – have some advice. If you have small children, don’t set your sights too high when it comes to housework. As a matter of fact, as long as the house isn’t toxic, consider yourself a success. Enjoy that special time when your little one cuddles up beside you. Enjoy the ‘firsts’ that come for your offspring. The kitchen will still be there tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that. It remains the same. Air Max TN

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  • Your children change. Don’t miss it. When you’re old and retired, you can have a clean house. Unless, of course, you’re like Grandpa and I.

    Hangman

    Saturday, September 20th, 2014

    Our 8-year-old granddaughter has reached the age where board games and other type of two player games are just her cup of tea.

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    You Have a Brain in Your Head

    Tuesday, September 2nd, 2014

    Our little Princess has been having some problems lately. under armour pas cher Nike Air Max 2017 Heren rood They involve accepting responsibility for her actions.

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    The other day, since consequences and the ‘jumping off a cliff’ talk wasn’t working, I decided to try a different quote. Case Keenum – Houston Cougars

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    Thinking about this – and being frustrated about my inability to get through to her – I searched for examples of adult behavior in these same circumstances. I was struck by how often we, who should be showing her how to stand up for what is right, have been modeling for her the behavior she uses. It’s not our fault we yelled obscenities at the driver in the car next to us. Mens Air Jordan 5 He was driving like an idiot and, besides, I had a rough day at work. It’s not my fault I didn’t remember it was my turn to bring the snacks to the kids sports game. Joe Montana – Notre Dame Fighting Irish I was busy with things at work and forgot. It’s not my fault is our battlecry. When we hang out with the kind of people we tell them to avoid, when we shirk our responsibilities, when we break those little pesky speed limit laws, even in the littlest things, we can’t just say “I screwed up. I’m sorry.” When it comes to the big things —– well, let’s just not go there.

    I’ve decided to focus a little more carefully on accepting responsibility myself. NIKE AIR ZOOM ELITE 9 After all, even though she won’t admit it, she models herself after me and her mother and her grandfather. new balance 577 grey green orange new balance 577 grey green orange We are the ones responsible for showing her how a true adult acts just as you are responsible for showing your children how they should act.

    Life’s Little Twists and Turns

    Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

    Several years ago, my mother introduced me to what has become one of my favorite movies – While You Were Sleeping with Sandra Bullock. In the beginning of this movie, she is telling about her childhood and her father. She tells how her father tried to explain that life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned. In the movie and in real life, I have found this to be true.

    As my husband and I reached that time in life where retirement promised fun-filled travel visiting children and grandchildren and exploring places we had never had the time or income to do before, we got a little side tracked.

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    About a year ago, we met another single mom who needed a home where her little one could live while she got her life organized. Canotte Sacramento Kings He is a developmentally dsabled little boy whom we call ‘Nature Boy.’ We call him that because he despises clothing and removes it whenever no one is watching. Naturally, in public, we keep a close eye on him. At home, he is often found happily watching Blues Clues completely in the buff. Adidas NMD PK Runner Sometimes he’s outdoors on his tummy on the swing with his little butt in the air. Nike Air Max 90 Thank God for privacy fences and older girls who call to inform me, “Grandma, Nature Boy is naked again!” He’s a happy little guy enjoying the world around him and somehow being able to get through to us what his wants and needs are even though he doesn’t talk yet.

    Nature Boy has a little brother just 2 months old now who also lives with us. The Little Guy has blue eyes that study the world around him solemnly. Only occasionally smiling but when he does his whole face gets involved. He sleeps through much of his day and, thankfully, has begun to sleep longer stretches through the night. Lack of sleep was forcing me to recognize my age limitations. We aren’t technically the grandparents of the two boys. They just call us that because Princess does and we allow it because we consider their mother our pseudo-daughter.

    We met another single mom around the same time we met Nature Boy’s mother. She has two little girls who are now just 10 months and 20 months. These little ones don’t live with us but we help out mommy on the week-ends when she has to work and needs a sitter. The two little girls come to stay with us on Friday nights and stay through Sunday. Nick Chubb UGA Jersey We enjoy watching the 20 month old as she dances through the house to any music available whether it be radio, television, Grandma singing or her singing to herself. She has little, happy feet that never stop moving unless she hears the sound of the word ‘no’. new balance 996 beige homme Then it becomes obvious that she is approaching the terrible two’s. She does a Jekyl and Hyde transformation that is astounding. Those happy feet do a quick transformation from dancing to stamping that is accompanied, not by music, but by a scream that is heard throughout the neighborhood. Her younger sister is a calmer, quieter child. She loves being rocked and cuddled. Nike Air Jordan 12 Womens
    When no one is available to rock her, she plays quietly with her toys, studying everything she sees with her big, beautiful blue eyes. Part of her studying things involves eating anything that she might find on the floor that has been left there by the others. She isn’t a a picky eater which is good when mealtimes come but not so good when chalk, crayons, Polly Pockets, matchbox cars and toy soldiers are left lying around.

    It feels somewhat like my life is a ‘do-over’ today. While the biological children and adoptive children have grown and blessed me with many grandchilden, things just haven’t turned out the way I planned. I have retired but haven’t started the trips around the country visiting grandchildren and adult children. I haven’t taken the time to plan trips overseas or cruises on ships. Nike Air Max Femme Nike Air Max 2017 Dames groen On the bright side, I don’t have time to sit around discussing my health or my latest ‘procedure’ with the other retirees I know.

    My life hasn’t turned out the way I planned.

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    So why am I talking about this? I’m trying to encourage you to realize that not everything in life has to be neatly organized nor does it have to come in logical steps. chaussures asics homme pas cher Don’t spend time regretting what isn’t. adidas zx 750 mujer Do spend time embracing the life you have been given and recognizing the good that you are blessed with.

    Rescues

    Sunday, September 1st, 2013

    The Little Guy is three months old now. The world around him is becoming very intriquing to him. We hung little toys on the bars of his swing so they were just barely within his reach. At first, he just watched them in fascination. Under Armour Soldes But lately, he’s begun to try to reach for them.

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    As adults, we face a similar situation in the habits we form. At first, they are fascinating. Canotte Washington Wizards So we grab hold and start swinging. These little habits bring us so much joy, sometimes making us feel really cool. Any teenager who ever started smoking knows that ‘coolness’ factor. asics gel kinsei 5 mujer Finally reaching the age of 21 and being allowed to drink is a milestone many wait for eagerly. Some even sneak in early to that milestone because it makes them feel soooo very sophisticated and suave. New Balance 999 hombre There are other more insidious habits like illegal drugs, even some legal drugs, pornography addictions, and many other things that destroy the fabric of our lives when we hold on to them too tightly. Canotte OKC Thunder Sometimes we need rescued.

    Remember this if there is a habit in your life that is hurting you and you don’t know how to let go. Seek out the ones who do know. nike air max 2016 wit Sometimes it’s in support groups with people who have been there before you.

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    Connections to the Heart

    Sunday, September 9th, 2012

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    A Handicapped Society

    Sunday, March 25th, 2012

    Have you ever felt worthless? You know, that feeling you get when nothing you do seems to be special. It sometimes feels like everything you do could easily be done by someone else – so what’s the point? Been there. Done that. Everyone has. So, for just a minute, I want to look at something else.

    In the human body, there are red blood cells and white blood cells, there are muscles, bones, lungs, heart, brain, ligaments – all kind of things. Anyone of those things, if they could talk, could get uppity with the rest of them. The heart could say, ‘without me, you’re dead’. The brain could say the same as could the blood cells, the lungs, the muscles - everything. In reality, none of them alone could make the body function. The brain needs the heart to send blood, the heart needs the lungs to re-oxygenate the blood, the lungs need the blood to filter out the bad and return the good, the blood is useless without the work done by the lungs and the heart. The muscles need the building blocks spread by the blood. Everything in your body is necessary. Now – granted – we could get along without some things. Many people live without limbs, eyes, without fully functioning brains, with hearts that aren’t up to snuff, etc. Those are the people we call ‘handicapped.’ Without a body that functions fully together, we are handicapped.

    It works that way in life, too. Your family, your place of employment, just society in general needs each and every person to function well in the spot you are in. You may not get the recognition of the President of the United States or the CEO of your company but without you, the President doesn’t have a constituency and the CEO doesn’t have a company. Every person alive today is necessary for the smooth functioning of society as a whole. Without you, we become handicapped. Flipping burgers at McDonald’s maybe doesn’t seem like much but the people who come to you to be fed see you as necessary for their comfort. Vacuuming the office floors after everyone has left can feel like drudgery but the job you do is vital for the health of the workers who will come the next morning. Yes, some people have more glamorous jobs or they live so much more exciting lives than you do. It doesn’t make you – and what you do – less important.

    Remember the old saying “bloom where you’re planted”? Well, let me suggest you go one step farther. Let me encourage you to do whatever you do the best you can do. Be a pro at what you do and be proud of what you do because without you, those around you are handicapped.

    Aesop’s Dog and Wolf Fable As I See It

    Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

    When you home school your children, you have the fun of re-learning all kinds of interesting things you learned as a child. I admit that, as a child, I never really thought Aesop’s Fables were all that interesting. Sometimes I thought the characters were downright dumb. Re-reading them with my granddaughter, I’m seeing a little wisdom here and there that I might have missed when I was younger.

    The dog and wolf fable tells of a wolf who finds himself in the middle of a tough winter with little food and no shelter. One day a nicely fed and happy dog comes by to talk with him. The dog assures him he has plenty of food and warmth and plenty of work to do for his master. The wolf wants those things and so begins to go with the dog until he notices that the dog has a collar. When the dog explains that the collar is to tie him up at night, the wolf decides against going with the dog.

    When I was a child, the moral of the story was always at the end but in today’s 1st grade worksheets, they leave that part out so we get to make our own moral. For me, the moral would be that too many of us want the good life but we aren’t willing to pay the price to get it. We want the nicer things in life but, in order to get them, we have to go to school to train to get the better paying jobs. Then we have to work the hours necessary in those jobs in order to afford the good life. In almost everything that is worthwhile in life, there is a catch. In order to have the stability and security of a good marriage, you have to give up the right to play the field. Of course, if you want to play the field, you give up the stability and security of a good marriage. In order to know the joy of having children, you must give up the personal freedom you had prior to their birth. You also give up a great deal of financial freedom. You can keep the personal freedom and the money but you lose the truly wonderful experience of being a parent.

    You get my point. The old physics truth that for every force there is an equal and opposite force seems to apply here. The trick is in deciding what is important for you. The wolf wanted plenty of food and the warm bed at night but he wasn’t willing to give up that freedom to howl at the moon each night. For me, he lost a lot to gain a little. How about you? Are you losing a lot to gain a little? Should you be changing something in your life but you’re not willing to give up that little to get the potential gain? Something to think about.