Q: My third grade son is taking to wearing his pants lower. Some of the older kids in our area wear their pants half off their butts. How do I stop my son from wearing his pants lower? Why would they even want to wear their pants that low?

A: I’m going to go out on a limb here (and probably make some enemies in the process). But, I believe that the clothes chosen by certain groups of kids is not just a fashion statement. It is also a lifestyle statement. And the lifestyle portrayed tends to be one of rebellion and disrespect coupled with living on the fringes of the drug culture. I would strongly recommend that you put a stop to this ‘statement.’ Since your son is a third grader, it’s safe to assume you’re the one buying his clothing. A simple solution to your problem is to refuse to purchase anything that doesn’t fit. If he does take clothing that should fit and buckles them down low, insist that he bring them back up to wear they belong and impose consequences when he doesn’t.

I would also suggest that you pay close attention to his friends. Your son is reaching an age when he wants to fit in. Right now, he’s trying to fit in with a group you aren’t going to be happy with. So be sure he has an alternative. Team sports are a great way to give kids a place to fit in. Scouting programs are another possibility. Many churches have excellent youth programs. Schools have after school clubs such as computer clubs, chess clubs, etc. For your son to be involved in one of these, may require that you put out a little extra money and effort for private lessons but it is well worth the expense and trouble.

Good luck to you.

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